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My Great Gran's got shingles.

This on its own isn't petty, it's actually pretty harsh. It's the fallout from that which is a bit shit. We were supposed to be going up to my Gran's but she's having to look after her and the parents don't want to be too imposing on her so are only going up for a couple of days. More annoyingly, my sister and I now aren't going to go up in case being around the bedbound relative causes us to get a bout of chicken pox before our Uni/school exams. This is a PTTGOMN as I've not seen my Gran in ages.

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Being lumbered with the responsibility of an ageing friend :huh:

She IS NOT MY responsibility but I am turning into a carer whether I like it or not due to every other c**t, including family, doing hee haw for her or being fucking miles away.

Her house is a death trap! The wiring must be as old as me. Her furniture/goods are falling apart to old age. She is now not able to keep up with the cleaning of the house either now.

She wanted me to get her some shoping. Not a problem at all. She said she had made out a shopping list but couldn't find it. If she took this same bit of paper out of her purse once more looking for this shopping list I was gonna fucking bludgeon her to death!

She has a district nurse type person that visits her regularly, surely they should be noticing this kind of shit and looking into contacting family?!

Im getting to the point where I am thinking I have to wash my hands of her. Its gonna be that I am gonna have to go out there more often than I currently am and I'm not sure I am prepared to do it :unsure: sounds crap I know, but she isnt my responsibilty!!

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Being lumbered with the responsibility of an ageing friend :huh:

She IS NOT MY responsibility but I am turning into a carer whether I like it or not due to every other c**t, including family, doing hee haw for her or being fucking miles away.

Her house is a death trap! The wiring must be as old as me. Her furniture/goods are falling apart to old age. She is now not able to keep up with the cleaning of the house either now.

She wanted me to get her some shoping. Not a problem at all. She said she had made out a shopping list but couldn't find it. If she took this same bit of paper out of her purse once more looking for this shopping list I was gonna fucking bludgeon her to death!

She has a district nurse type person that visits her regularly, surely they should be noticing this kind of shit and looking into contacting family?!

Im getting to the point where I am thinking I have to wash my hands of her. Its gonna be that I am gonna have to go out there more often than I currently am and I'm not sure I am prepared to do it :unsure: sounds crap I know, but she isnt my responsibilty!!

If a nurse thinks she has someone to support her (i.e. you), she might not be seen as a high enough priority to get more help. Try contacting somewhere like Age Concern for some advice as to what help she's entitled to, and then approach the subject gently with her. If you're not prepared to take on the responsibility, don't let her think you will and then ditch her when it gets too much, because that really would be crap.

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If a nurse thinks she has someone to support her (i.e. you), she might not be seen as a high enough priority to get more help. Try contacting somewhere like Age Concern for some advice as to what help she's entitled to, and then approach the subject gently with her. If you're not prepared to take on the responsibility, don't let her think you will and then ditch her when it gets too much, because that really would be crap.

I am trying to distance myself from her already. Making the time between visits longer! But she is needing someone there more often.

I dont see myself as being the one who should be approaching the subject of her getting help/moving to somewhere easier to keep. She has a grandson she rarely sees, maybe gets a phonecall now and again. She has nurses weekly. I dont see why I should be the one to take this on.

I was thinking today about maybe contacting and trying to have a chat with the nurses and see their views. She may have mentioned to them I visit occasionally but I dont see myself as being someone responsible and see the nurses as having more of a role on this and ultimately, it should be the grandson if he got off his arse.

I will ponder over it for a few I think.

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I dont see myself as being the one who should be approaching the subject of her getting help/moving to somewhere easier to keep. She has a grandson she rarely sees, maybe gets a phonecall now and again. She has nurses weekly. I dont see why I should be the one to take this on.

If you're the only one who she can rely on at the moment, who else is going to do it? If the nurse thinks you're helping and her grandson doesn't see her to know she needs the help, she's not going to get what she needs.

I understand that you don't feel it to be your duty or responsibility to take on, but you obviously care to have helped so far. Speaking to the nurses as you say may be an idea, if they're willing to speak to you about her.

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If you're the only one who she can rely on at the moment, who else is going to do it? If the nurse thinks you're helping and her grandson doesn't see her to know she needs the help, she's not going to get what she needs.

I understand that you don't feel it to be your duty or responsibility to take on, but you obviously care to have helped so far. Speaking to the nurses as you say may be an idea, if they're willing to speak to you about her.

Its not that I dont care, im not that bad a b*****d. I dont just want to leave her and forget about it. But a visit is a 40 mile trip for me and I cant afford the fuel costs for that trip to be happening on a regular basis for one!

Think I might try and catch the nurses. Its not like I am wanting to talk about her medical services so hopefully they will be up for a chat.

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Its not that I dont care, im not that bad a b*****d. I dont just want to leave her and forget about it. But a visit is a 40 mile trip for me and I cant afford the fuel costs for that trip to be happening on a regular basis for one!

Think I might try and catch the nurses. Its not like I am wanting to talk about her medical services so hopefully they will be up for a chat.

Have you checked her bank books, this could set you up for life. Just get on with wiping the old dears arse, she can't live forever.

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