The DA Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 11 hours ago, Ylf said: have you ever caught one of your mates girlfriends boyfriends etc cheating? would you tell your mate or leave alone? my brothers ex was fond of the cock and i found out. had to tell him but it was like shoot the messenger. Does your brother's ex live anywhere around here? 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ylf Posted October 1, 2019 Author Share Posted October 1, 2019 Does your brother's ex live anywhere around here? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjc Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 1 hour ago, Dele said: Pretty alarming to see folk would let their mates get the pish ripped out them for fear of "shooting the messenger" or even worse "it's not my relationship". Some mates. Even if they were happy with the situation. ie in an open relationship? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
101 Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 22 minutes ago, sjc said: Even if they were happy with the situation. ie in an open relationship? If it was a discreet open relationship then they wouldn't mind being told that you thought their partner was cheating on them as they could easily correct you and that would be the end of it. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjc Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 1 minute ago, Adam101 said: If it was a discreet open relationship then they wouldn't mind being told that you thought their partner was cheating on them as they could easily correct you and that would be the end of it. Not really. You're ignoring the word "discreet". An open relationship, yes, you'd be correct. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cardinal Richelieu Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 6 hours ago, G_Man1985 said: 10 hours ago, LondonHMFC said: When I first moved South, I stayed with my Aunty & Uncle for a few months, just to get settled. Anyway, one day I came back from work and my Uncle was on the PC in their office. He obviously didn't hear me, and as I walked into the room, he quickly turned round, saw me and switched the monitor off. I didn't say anything, just said I was going to go out with the Mrs for a few drinks. As I'm about to leave, the phone goes and I go to answer it, he basically wrestled it out my hand and went upstairs with it. I went through to the office, and rattled a few letters on the keyboard so it didn't go to sleep and lock out. He came downstairs and was reasonably well dressed (which was odd as he was usually bit of a scruff round the house) and said he was going out to see a friend. At this point my Mrs arrived and needed the loo, so as he left, I ran into the office and luckily the machine hadn't locked out. I just went onto Chrome, into the history and it was just filled of local escorts (not the Ford kind). The Mrs says she always remembers walking in, and finding me just shell shocked. I explained what happened, and then we just went through all the pages, there was fucking loads. She suggested doing 1471 and seeing if there is a number, and there was. We Googled it and it came up as belonging to a young Asian girl who listed all of her "services". I had no idea what to do, I was still relatively young, and the thought of dropping a bomb shell onto a family members relationship didn't seem too appealing. We went out, not before ringing the house phone to change the last number (still not sure why I did this), and stayed out for a few hours, just having a booze to numb the shock. Eventually it was time to go back, as the house came into sight, I could see that my Aunty was home. I said that I couldn't say anything there and then. Once we got in, my Uncle called us through to the kitchen where they were eating. As we walked through, there was an air of nervousness, but that was short lived as my Uncle then came out with the immortal line "have you two eaten? I was meant to be cooking, but fancied a Chinese". As soon as those words left his mouth, my Mrs turned around, and I could just hear her stifling laughter, my Aunt & Uncle looked a tad confused. I made excuses and just went to my room, where my girlfriend was crying with laughter into the pillow. I rung my Mum (Sister of my Aunt) and told her everything, she said due to the delicate situation, just to keep quiet, but if I was ever asked then to tell the truth. That was a good few years back now, and it's never been brought up. I think I made the correct decision, on the surface they appear very content and have moved into a new house recently, but part of me does wonder if it was a one off, or a regular thing. So basically your family all know that your uncle is cheating on your auntie? That's pretty grim. Not to mention all of P+B as well. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derry Alli Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 1 hour ago, sjc said: Even if they were happy with the situation. ie in an open relationship? If they're in an open relationship then I don't see why they'd get annoyed at their mate looking out for them. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bert Raccoon Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 2 hours ago, Dele said: Pretty alarming to see folk would let their mates get the pish ripped out them for fear of "shooting the messenger" or even worse "it's not my relationship". Some mates. Spot on, I really don't see how anyone could let their mate get the piss ripped out them and not tell them. If my Mrs was at it behind my back and I found out my mates knew but said nothing I'd be fuming. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjc Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 2 minutes ago, Dele said: If they're in an open relationship then I don't see why they'd get annoyed at their mate looking out for them. Open relationship perhaps. Discreet open relationship, not so much. A lot of people don't want outsiders (of the relationship) knowing intimate details of their relationship. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MONKMAN Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 Yes. Awkward situation years back where one of my very good friends was shagging the girlfriend of another good friend. The two mates didn’t actually know each other, as they’re from 2 different social circles, one from through the football the other from school.I phoned the mate who was shagging her and told him I was going to have to say something, but I wouldn’t name him personally. He wasn’t overly bothered if I did or not and was fine with it. I got another mutual friend of the boy getting cheated on for backup and we went to see him one day we knew he was off. Was pretty horrible experience telling him that I knew his girlfriend was cheating, but he thanked me in the end. She came clean when he questioned her, and bizarrely that was the catalyst for her moving in. They’re now married with a child and she still hates me for being the one to tell him but I could give a f**k. I’d expect any of my mates to do the same for me. On a similar note, my girlfriends best mate got married last year. When they were away on the hen do, my girlfriends colleague seen the groom to be, kissing and getting into a taxi with another girl. She was in two minds over to say something only a month prior to the wedding but in the end up she knew if she said anything to the bride he’d probably deny it and she’d be the bad one, so just kept quiet. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Honest_Man#1 Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 4 hours ago, Dee Man said: I told my a guy I know his mate was banging his missus behind his back - he then proceeded to kick f**k out of me! Then I remembered it was me who was banging his missus. Not really. I believe the bit where you get your head kicked in (would actually be more surprising if that wasn’t true tbh), the second bit not so much. 3 hours ago, Dele said: Pretty alarming to see folk would let their mates get the pish ripped out them for fear of "shooting the messenger" or even worse "it's not my relationship". Some mates. This. I’m absolutely baffled by this thread. If my mates didn’t tell me something like that I’d be livid, so I’d 100% be letting them know. The family story from LHMFC is more complicated but I wouldn’t be able to go about life knowing something like that and keeping it to myself. Every Christmas dinner etc sitting there knowing he’s probably going to be ploughing someone else on Boxing Day. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Busta Nut Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 4 hours ago, sjc said: Even if they were happy with the situation. ie in an open relationship? 4 hours ago, sjc said: Not really. You're ignoring the word "discreet". An open relationship, yes, you'd be correct. 3 hours ago, sjc said: Open relationship perhaps. Discreet open relationship, not so much. A lot of people don't want outsiders (of the relationship) knowing intimate details of their relationship. You are all over the place here. Are you just to assume anyone fucking about could be in an open relationship? Get yer pals telt. If there is an agreement your mate would be ok tellin' you and you keep quiet about it. 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
welshbairn Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 (edited) It's a big assumption to make that everyone wants the cold hard truth that they aren't in a perfectly monogamous relationship. If I found out that either partner in an otherwise happy marriage had played away from home on a stag or hen do, say, I probably wouldn't say a word. If a mate's wife was regularly shagging someone else when he was at work, I probably would. Wrecking a marriage over a one off drunken straying wouldn't always be the best thing to help a mate. Edited October 1, 2019 by welshbairn 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjc Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 29 minutes ago, Busta Nut said: You are all over the place here. Are you just to assume anyone fucking about could be in an open relationship? Get yer pals telt. If there is an agreement your mate would be ok tellin' you and you keep quiet about it. Not at all. Just learned through bitter experience. Lost a good mate a few years back over his girlfriend seeing someone else. He's still with her to this day. I have no idea whether they were in an open relationship or not but I do know a married couple that are (they're swingers also) and they like to keep it quiet. Everyones different as the end of the day. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gaz FFC Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 4 hours ago, Bert Raccoon said: Spot on, I really don't see how anyone could let their mate get the piss ripped out them and not tell them. If my Mrs was at it behind my back and I found out my mates knew but said nothing I'd be fuming. Yeah it does seem like 2 kicks to the baws. You'd want to turn to your mates in your hour of need but the sneaky fuckers have been less than honest with you. Who are you left with now???? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Skerla Posted October 1, 2019 Popular Post Share Posted October 1, 2019 4 minutes ago, Gaz FFC said: Yeah it does seem like 2 kicks to the baws. You'd want to turn to your mates in your hour of need but the sneaky fuckers have been less than honest with you. Who are you left with now???? P&B 26 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Busta Nut Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 7 minutes ago, sjc said: Not at all. Just learned through bitter experience. Lost a good mate a few years back over his girlfriend seeing someone else. He's still with her to this day. I have no idea whether they were in an open relationship or not but I do know a married couple that are (they're swingers also) and they like to keep it quiet. Everyones different as the end of the day. Sounds like your mate was a dickhead regardless. How are you to know if folk wanna keep it on the quiet if you don't mention it? Surely as a mate you'd tell them, they'd say he was ok with it and as a mate you'd say you'd keep it quiet. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gordon EF Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 Easy solution. Next time you see your pal, say to him that you spotted the wife/gf of a work colleague cheating on him and you're not sure whether to tell them. If your pal says you should.... "OK, thanks for the advice. Also, I have some bad news for you...." 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Romeo Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 Who was the poster on here that made the claim that his wedding rig and wallet were stolen by some "Polish looking guys" at the gym? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjc Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 1 minute ago, Busta Nut said: Sounds like your mate was a dickhead regardless. How are you to know if folk wanna keep it on the quiet if you don't mention it? Surely as a mate you'd tell them, they'd say he was ok with it and as a mate you'd say you'd keep it quiet. He was a good guy. I guess some people see their relationship as none of anyone elses business. Friends included. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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