Granny Danger Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 8 minutes ago, throbber said: Why don’t you have any friends? Do you have friends? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
throbber Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 Some years ago I went through a prolonged depressive episode where I shunned all contact with everyone I knew, and didn't do anything to reverse this after it was over. I haven't made any new friends or done anything since.What about the people you work with or people who are in your every day life? Are they not your friends? Do you have friends? I have acquaintances who I spend time with when it suits me, usually hang around with my family and the in laws at weekends when I’m being sociable. Some people who I would have considered my good friends didn’t even message me upon the birth of my daughter, even you messaged me FFS! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miguel Sanchez Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 27 minutes ago, throbber said: What about the people you work with or people who are in your every day life? Are they not your friends? I've worked in the same place for three years and not seen anyone from there outside of work. There aren't people in my everyday life outside of that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sergeant Wilson Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 1 minute ago, Miguel Sanchez said: I've worked in the same place for three years and not seen anyone from there outside of work. There aren't people in my everyday life outside of that. Does it bother you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dindeleux Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 I was sleeping with a girl on and off for a while. This was during the period of mohawks and highlighted hair.Anyway I’d been sleeping with this girl but there was nothing serious in it and we were genuinely just pals. One day I was in her house getting my hair highlighted (we were just hanging about by this stage really) and one of her friends was in to see her.That was about 8 years ago, we messed around for a while (me and the new friend, not the girl I’d been shagging)and then didn’t see each other for 3 years. Got together again in May 2014 and now we’ve got a kid, pets and mortgage etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miguel Sanchez Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 5 minutes ago, Sergeant Wilson said: Does it bother you? I've been used to it too long for it to bother me anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miguel Sanchez Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 So, if you were considering it Sergeant, you might be deid by the time it becomes enjoyable. I wouldn't recommend you try it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shotgun Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 Am I the only one who felt a frisson of fear when he saw that Throbber had posted on this thread? Looks like we're OK so far though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shandon Par Posted June 29, 2018 Author Share Posted June 29, 2018 2 minutes ago, Shotgun said: Am I the only one who felt a frisson of fear when he saw that Throbber had posted on this thread? Looks like we're OK so far though. Throbber met his missus when their mum brought her home from the maternity hospital. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sergeant Wilson Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 1 minute ago, Miguel Sanchez said: So, if you were considering it Sergeant, you might be deid by the time it becomes enjoyable. I wouldn't recommend you try it. My mates work away and the ones that don't are 5 nights a week pub dwellers. I make a point of seeing the ones who work away and another point of only occasionally joining the bevvy merchants. I suppose it's good to have the choice but I don't mind not socialising much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugster Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 People are unfair to throbber on here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shotgun Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 2 minutes ago, Rugster said: People are unfair to throbber on here. ...and your point is? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
throbber Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 I've been used to it too long for it to bother me anymore.That’s a pretty sad thing to say Miguel. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bert Raccoon Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 Met my girlfriend in the smoking area of a pub in Hamilton, very romantic. My close mates are a mix of mates from school and mates from a larger social circle when we were teenagers. I've also got mates from Accies games but would say I only really see them during the football season. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
throbber Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 I met my girlfriend at various parties/nights out with mutual friends.Most of my friends were from high school, football or work and I usually just hung out with them on nights out and weekends away, was never one for sitting around the house with my mates just for the sake of it. Have plenty mates I can see when it’s convenient for me but none of them would bother hassling me or showing up at mine unannounced which suits me down to the ground. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MONKMAN Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 My friend group is the same boys I was at school with 20 years ago. They’ve lasted this long, so I’ve no intention of changing them for another lot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ICTChris Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 I've been used to it too long for it to bother me anymore.Do you think there have been any positives to what’s happened to you? Have you found that your life is better for some people no longer being in it?My wife has several friends who were really just leeches, emotionally and, to an extent, financially. She stopped contacting them and drifted away and has felt a big benefit from it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
throbber Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 My friend group is the same boys I was at school with 20 years ago. They’ve lasted this long, so I’ve no intention of changing them for another lot. You can still make other friends without feeling the need to swap one for another. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Ferrino Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 6 hours ago, Shotgun said: This was late November and the places I still really wanted to see, New York, Boston and Chicago aren't easy to visit on a budget in winter. I was more than a bit bummed because it essentially meant my trip was over and had I known that, I could've gone home a couple of months earlier and saved some money. However, my new friend said "Well, I'm going on holiday next week and had planned to hire a dog-sitter. Why don't you stay at my place and look after my dogs for me. By the time I get back, you might have a better idea what you'd like to do." On new year's eve, after knowing each other for about 6 weeks, we got engaged. If I can manage another fortnight, we'll have been married 25 years next month. Does the speedy wedding does explain your username ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miguel Sanchez Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 27 minutes ago, ICTChris said: Do you think there have been any positives to what’s happened to you? Have you found that your life is better for some people no longer being in it? My wife has several friends who were really just leeches, emotionally and, to an extent, financially. She stopped contacting them and drifted away and has felt a big benefit from it. Absolutely not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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