RH33 Posted February 26, 2023 Share Posted February 26, 2023 I prefer variety...... Nah, I think there's an expectation that people are in relationship "you found someone yet" etc. But I've got the kids, the mutt and to be honest it's a strain in my mental health. I find social connections very difficult, nature of BPD. Maybe I'll change once girls are teenagers but I also don't want a trail of partners through their life either. I can seperate the physical from the emotional very easily too so I can draw on some people I know if the need arises 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
effeffsee_the2nd Posted February 26, 2023 Share Posted February 26, 2023 46 minutes ago, RH33 said: I've tried tinder, bumble, match, PoF and come to the conclusion o genuinely can't be arsed with a relationship. That's not the only thing they're for tho... 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ekhibee88 Posted February 26, 2023 Share Posted February 26, 2023 Worth paying for Bumble? Do you really get more matches? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Richey Edwards Posted February 26, 2023 Share Posted February 26, 2023 3 minutes ago, Ekhibee88 said: Worth paying for Bumble? Do you really get more matches? No it's a scam. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweeperDee Posted February 26, 2023 Share Posted February 26, 2023 5 hours ago, Derry Alli said: Met this brilliant lassie who is my type, great fun and easy going. Two things though. 1. She uses the term 'vibe'. 2. She's a Fifer. Punt. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RH33 Posted February 26, 2023 Share Posted February 26, 2023 4 hours ago, Ekhibee88 said: Worth paying for Bumble? Do you really get more matches? My friend got married in September, she met her husband on bumble. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ParsJake Posted February 26, 2023 Share Posted February 26, 2023 2 hours ago, RH33 said: My friend got married in September, she met her husband on bumble. I can't decide if this is a ringing endorsement or a dire warning. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RawB93 Posted February 26, 2023 Share Posted February 26, 2023 8 hours ago, RH33 said: I've tried tinder, bumble, match, PoF and come to the conclusion I'm irredeemably gugget Spoiler Only kidding, this seems to be a good natured and encouraging thread. A bit like the depression thread, but for horny people. There's always the chance this could work out better for you. I've come to terms recently with the fact I don't want an exclusive relationship either and found that being upfront about that helps a lot. Meeting or chatting to people without the fear/pressure of 'is this the one?' or 'do we both want the same thing here?' hanging over you is so much better. Found it genuinely liberating and I find I'm much less nervous about dating and more importantly actually building close relationships with people because we know where we stand. Basically not wanting an exclusive relationship doesn't mean you can't have the nice things that people can give you. Maybe try the no-pressure approach and see how you get on : ) 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derry Alli Posted February 26, 2023 Share Posted February 26, 2023 You're not fucking wrong there, pal. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RH33 Posted February 27, 2023 Share Posted February 27, 2023 7 hours ago, RawB93 said: Hide contents Only kidding, this seems to be a good natured and encouraging thread. A bit like the depression thread, but for horny people. There's always the chance this could work out better for you. I've come to terms recently with the fact I don't want an exclusive relationship either and found that being upfront about that helps a lot. Meeting or chatting to people without the fear/pressure of 'is this the one?' or 'do we both want the same thing here?' hanging over you is so much better. Found it genuinely liberating and I find I'm much less nervous about dating and more importantly actually building close relationships with people because we know where we stand. Basically not wanting an exclusive relationship doesn't mean you can't have the nice things that people can give you. Maybe try the no-pressure approach and see how you get on : ) I have no interest in meeting 'the one'. Been there, done that. (I'm female for clarity) I used a(should be but plenty drama queens) straightforward hookup site and had decent hit rate. I have zero interest in dating, if I want to go out for a meal I take my kids or friends. Again part of this is the BPD. I've a very small circle.of friends for same.reason. Like a good car, regular servicing all I need. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottsdad Posted February 27, 2023 Share Posted February 27, 2023 Reading the thread, I wish you all luck. Whether you're looking for love or just a bit of fun. My dating days are long behind me. Internet dating sites didn't exist when I was single, and don't know if things are better with them for people or not. If I re-entered the dating scene now I'd be hopelessly lost in all this. My step-daughter met hew new partner through the internet. No idea what site, but he's from Glasgow and she lives in Linlithgow and I doubt their paths would ever have crossed in the old days of chatting folk up in pubs. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alert Mongoose Posted February 27, 2023 Share Posted February 27, 2023 Medicinal Oral Therapy 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Derry Posted February 27, 2023 Share Posted February 27, 2023 On 26/02/2023 at 11:38, Derry Alli said: Met this brilliant lassie who is my type, great fun and easy going. Two things though. 1. She uses the term 'vibe'. 2. She's a Fifer. If her name is Ashley run mate. She gave me scabies. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottsdad Posted February 27, 2023 Share Posted February 27, 2023 3 hours ago, Alert Mongoose said: Medicinal Oral Therapy I tried that line before, it never worked. No woman has ever been convinced by the medicinal value of Vitamin S. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stellaboz Posted February 27, 2023 Share Posted February 27, 2023 Just now, scottsdad said: I tried that line before, it never worked. No woman has ever been convinced by the medicinal value of Vitamin S. Not with your FK postcode spunk! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottsdad Posted February 27, 2023 Share Posted February 27, 2023 Just now, Stellaboz said: Not with your FK postcode spunk! Nectar of the Gods, that stuff. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alta-pete Posted February 27, 2023 Share Posted February 27, 2023 21 minutes ago, scottsdad said: Nectar of the Gods, that stuff. How do you know? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alta-pete Posted February 27, 2023 Share Posted February 27, 2023 22 minutes ago, Stellaboz said: Not with your FK postcode spunk! And how do you know? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottsdad Posted February 27, 2023 Share Posted February 27, 2023 1 minute ago, alta-pete said: How do you know? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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