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Sorting things out mate :(

I'll be fine after i've met her :)

properly sorting things out - as in arranging what happens now after living together or joint bills and the like, or is this a closure chat whilst didivng up DVDs?

if its the latter I'd really suggest just leaving it for now.

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Do not have sex with her or even kiss her. Everything will be 1204354 times harder.

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Agreed, post break up nookie is harder. Tho last time it happened to me she answered her door in a school girl outfit. I had no chance

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properly sorting things out - as in arranging what happens now after living together or joint bills and the like, or is this a closure chat whilst didivng up DVDs?

if its the latter I'd really suggest just leaving it for now.

just gonna sit and chat mate about things. I'll explain it all tonight on here :)

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Cheers mate I just hope it helps I know it will go at my pace and that just not sure if I will talk or not.

The good thing is is that you don't have to. It's totally up to you. But it's the best environment for it I'd say. No one will ever know except you and who, if anyone, you choose to tell about what you say (or don't say).

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Can empathise with the relationship stuff. Been a bit of a serial monoganist but made bad choices in partners.

The last one was aware I'd been screwed around with behind my back, and promised he'd just leave if he met someone else.

Anyway, after yet another miscarrage, I find out he's been seeing one of our mutual workmates.

That was six years ago, no more relationships due to trust issues, and being absolutely broken at the time.

Anyway, I know I'm not that well known on here, but also willing to be PM'd if anyone thinks it'd help.

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Yeah a relationship I started when I was 17 really put the rest on the rocks for a good few years after, proper Jerry Springer stuff with her having an affair with her dads mate.. Not the best of times but got through it despite her being pregnant from said affair and keeping the kid...

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Well the first counselling session went well more of a get to know each other affair than getting right down to the issues. Felt happy at that so maybe next time go a bit further and talk about how I feel down and whats causing it. Got talking about some of my likes and mentioned football and the binos that was met with a bit of a laugh and some off the cuff comments about our performance then he admited to having a soft spot for the 'shire but that he was more a rugby supporter cue my comments of egg chaser ect.

In all it felt good and friendly think it mat work for me or at least give me somesort of out let and that.

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Well the first counselling session went well more of a get to know each other affair than getting right down to the issues. Felt happy at that so maybe next time go a bit further and talk about how I feel down and whats causing it. Got talking about some of my likes and mentioned football and the binos that was met with a bit of a laugh and some off the cuff comments about our performance then he admited to having a soft spot for the 'shire but that he was more a rugby supporter cue my comments of egg chaser ect.

In all it felt good and friendly think it mat work for me or at least give me somesort of out let and that.

Excellent stuff!

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:(

:bairn

Chin up lad.

Like others, I'm open to PM if anyone needs it. I've never suffered from it myself, but have experience of someone close to me suffering (my wife when we first got together was depressed).

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:(

:bairn

That went well

Don't worry about it, it was obviously going to be tough, but at least you've got it out of way, putting it off wouldn't have helped at all. Try and get some of your pals and do something to put you're mind off it.

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People that are getting down about not being able to find a girl/boy, don't be. The good relationships start off by complete random and in my eyes they ones are the best. My current girlfriend who i genuinely haven't been with for very long is an absolutely lovely girl and means an awful lot to me already. I met her by chance, as my old work needed someone to go work at another store and they decided i should go, i tried to get out of it, but it's where i met her and we hit it off right away and now we're happy, i often wonder what i'd be doing just now if my work just decided to send someone else! There's no rush in finding love, that will come in time.

Plus rushing relationships is a very bad idea! I moved in with my ex far too soon. Now I'm stuck with a house I don't want, in a place I don't like and miles away from people i wanna see.

Anyone who fancies pm-ing me about anything feel free. I have never had depression but I'm a good listener.

Also IO if you're ever in dundee i'll take you out and you'll forget you ever had a girlfriend when you wake up next to 2 hilltown minks who'll happily sit on your face for the price of a bus fare

Great post young Matthew, glad to see this side to you, I'm sure having someone to speak to here will help people out.

PS, IO he is telling the truth in the last bit. If you take him up on this, I've a few numbers for you mate.

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Do not have sex with her or even kiss her. Everything will be 1204354 times harder.

IO this.

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This year has been an eventful one for me.

This is the year that, in chronological order; I turned 21, my brother who I'm very close to moved out of my house, I was diagnosed with depression, I went my dream holiday to Canada, my cousin (who again i was very close to) died of a heroin overdose, I went to my first ever funeral where I carried the coffin, I got engaged, my dads best friend (my 'uncle') was diagnosed with cancer, and my uncle (dad of the cousin that died) had a massive heart attack.

At any other point in my life this would have all floored me, but I'm managing to cope and its mostly down to being with the right person. She has managed to keep my spirits up throughout everything.

What I'm saying is; don't become fixated on getting into a relationship. Just find solace in the fact that one day you will be in the right relationship.

Edited to add: Completely forgot that this year also included: My cousin (sister of the one who died) got married and my dad found out he had a half sister which led to him finding out some horrible things about his dad, him openly crying infront of us for days (a rare sight with my dad) and then his half sister telling him she wanted nothing to with us.

What a fucking year this has been.

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Evening lads.

Met my ex before training. She told me the reason she split up with me was because of her ex which i understand. But she keeps hanging about withthis another laddie at the same training despite telling me a few weeks ago she hated him:(. Many others at training said to me that they think my ex and him are going out.

I didn't break down when i spoke to her thankfully but i felt upset more than i thought i would be. When i was training earlier. Many of my mates noticed i felt a bit off. I misplaced a couple of passes but thankfully i ran 20yards to score and took out all of my emotion on the ball and smashed the ball into the net from 9yards out :lol:

I saw her after training for about 30seconds and she knew i was upset :(. But she went and met this another laddie after training too. Since then i feel like crap and really cba speaking to my mates :(.

I might as well go and have a night out in Dundee with Matty and peeeel. ;).

Time to move on i think and start looking again :(

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Evening lads.

Met my ex before training. She told me the reason she split up with me was because of he ex which i understand. But she keeps hanging about withthis another laddie at the same training despite telling me a few weeks ago she hated him:(. Many others at training said to me that they think my ex and him are going out.

I didn't break down when i spoke to her thankfully but i felt upset more than i thought i would be. When i was training earlier. Many of my mates noticed i felt a bit off. I misplaced a couple of passes but thankfully i ran 20yards to score and took out all of my emotion on the ball and smashed the ball into the net from 9yards out :lol:

I saw her after training for about 30seconds and she knew i was upset :(. But she went and met this another laddie after training too. Since then i feel like crap and really cba speaking to my mates :(.

I might as well go and have a night out in Dundee with Matty and peeeel. ;).

Time to move on i think and start looking again :(

You can have a pint with me and Peeeel and Matty anytime bud. It's good to see that you understand that you will have to move on.

Lingering is something that I know all too well about and it eats away at you over time. It's always darkest before the dawn, always remember that.

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Keep the chin up, IO. Plenty more fish in the sea, it seems to me like she is getting a kick from seeing you upset. Don't let it get to you and just be yourself and I'm sure you'll find someone else who appreciates you.

I'm all ears as well so if anyone fancies a chat drop me a pm.

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