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Just ignore it, he seems to have been on a Rab B inspired meltdown for some time now. There are bigger things to concern yourself about than some dots on a Football Forum so don't let it bother you.


It’s not the dots that bother me, it’s the following everything I’m doing. The dots are what I have to know he’s actually trawling through what I’m posting etc
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Yeah I agree the gym is outstanding for that. Especially that attempt to push your self more and more. That allows you the chance to totally distract yourself from all that’s going on default_smile.png what sort of stuff do you do at the gym?

Sorry, just seen this now.
Aye it really does, for me anyway. I spent about a year doing rehab on my knee which was soul destroying but it doesn’t bother me day-to-day now and decided I just won’t play football anymore so back to try to get half decent on the weights. Mostly stick to the machines, free weights tend to be taken up by big fella’s smashing them about but I’ll grab them if I can. Try to keep it varied doing shoulders one day, chest the next, arms, legs. It gets me out work for an hour at lunch and if I go after work I’ll spend 15/20 on the bike then 10/15 on the cross trainer. If I sorted my diet and drinking I could probably be in no bad shape (or better anyway) but life’s too short and I’m not really unhappy with how I am just now.
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52 minutes ago, FalkirkBairn93 said:

 


It’s not the dots that bother me, it’s the following everything I’m doing. The dots are what I have to know he’s actually trawling through what I’m posting etc

 

I wouldn’t pay too much attention to it. He seems to pick people now and again and focuses on them. He probably isn’t even reading your posts just searching your name and using his quota up. 

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I wouldn’t pay too much attention to it. He seems to pick people now and again and focuses on them. He probably isn’t even reading your posts just searching your name and using his quota up. 

He’s also a complete grade A c**t so just best ignored. I can’t imagine how pathetic a life you must have to go around dotting folk on a football forum.
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19 hours ago, FalkirkBairn93 said:

Know what’s not helping, is having one member of this forum (Marshmallo) traipsing through all my posts and marking them down. He’s the only one doing it.

 

I spend every day looking over my should only worry that someone is following and watching, here I come to discuss football and have a bit of banter and what’s happening is literally what I worry about every single day.

 

I literally don't know why he's doing it but considering what you've posted on here it might be worth firing him a PM as per the post in this thread? He may not be aware of it and if it's causing you (understandable) anxiety then once he's aware it might stop.

@Marshmallo?

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8 hours ago, Raidernation said:

Shat on big time at work today (figuratively obvs).
No a happy bunny

 

6 hours ago, FalkirkBairn93 said:

 


What happened mate?

 

One of the big fat women ate all the sandwiches again?

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This may a sound a bit yer da, but I didn’t know where else to turn with this. I have a mate who, if i told all this to, would tell his missus, who in turn would tell mine. The kids are 10 and 12 and i an finding them quite stressful. Feel like i am not doing much right with them, feel like i am constantly at loggerheads with them about tidying after themselves. And then when it’s starting to get to me, mrs b just says that i am crabbit and need to lighten up. I do want to be an easy going person and i used to be. Don’t know what has happened, i seen a Facebook memory thing from a few years ago, basically saying stuff along the lines of that i had enough of being stressed and annoyed with other people. So this isn’t a new thing, but i seem to hit this time of year where things just overwhelm me. I’m not at a stage where i think i need antidepressants or stuff like that. I have always had this attitude of the good things are usually balanced out by the bad and recent years for all the good stuff we have had, there has just been shite stuff happen at the back of it and I don’t know if the shite stuff seems to be amplified in my head, but it seems like it outweighs the good. It’s go seem daft, and be honest if it does, but when we are bickering over silly things, I actually notice other couples around me that seem to be so happy. When things are good with us, it is really good but at times, i let the silly wee arguments linger in my head.
I don’t even know where i am going with this, but i needed to vent.
The thing is, in my head and even written down i know what the problems are, i just don’t seem to have the solutions.

Apologies if none of this makes sense.

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18 minutes ago, buchan30 said:

This may a sound a bit yer da, but I didn’t know where else to turn with this. I have a mate who, if i told all this to, would tell his missus, who in turn would tell mine. The kids are 10 and 12 and i an finding them quite stressful. Feel like i am not doing much right with them, feel like i am constantly at loggerheads with them about tidying after themselves. And then when it’s starting to get to me, mrs b just says that i am crabbit and need to lighten up. I do want to be an easy going person and i used to be. Don’t know what has happened, i seen a Facebook memory thing from a few years ago, basically saying stuff along the lines of that i had enough of being stressed and annoyed with other people. So this isn’t a new thing, but i seem to hit this time of year where things just overwhelm me. I’m not at a stage where i think i need antidepressants or stuff like that. I have always had this attitude of the good things are usually balanced out by the bad and recent years for all the good stuff we have had, there has just been shite stuff happen at the back of it and I don’t know if the shite stuff seems to be amplified in my head, but it seems like it outweighs the good. It’s go seem daft, and be honest if it does, but when we are bickering over silly things, I actually notice other couples around me that seem to be so happy. When things are good with us, it is really good but at times, i let the silly wee arguments linger in my head.
I don’t even know where i am going with this, but i needed to vent.
The thing is, in my head and even written down i know what the problems are, i just don’t seem to have the solutions.

Apologies if none of this makes sense.

Maybe you need a wee break on your own or with mates to recharge and get things into perspective? This time of year has to be the worst for it. The happy couples you see around you probably aren't always like that, especially at home.

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Maybe you need a wee break on your own or with mates to recharge and get things into perspective? This time of year has to be the worst for it. The happy couples you see around you probably aren't always like that, especially at home.

 

I have my works Christmas night out tomorrow, which i do look forward to, so maybe that will help. I maybe need to get out the house more as well. Yeah, you’re probably right, I don’t know why i notice that sort of thing, it’s probably something that would just pass other folk by.

 

You are right about perspective as well, lucky to have what i do and maybe just don’t notice it sometimes. I just feel mentally drained sometimes with the silly reasons that we bicker.

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This may a sound a bit yer da, but I didn’t know where else to turn with this. I have a mate who, if i told all this to, would tell his missus, who in turn would tell mine. The kids are 10 and 12 and i an finding them quite stressful. Feel like i am not doing much right with them, feel like i am constantly at loggerheads with them about tidying after themselves. And then when it’s starting to get to me, mrs b just says that i am crabbit and need to lighten up. I do want to be an easy going person and i used to be. Don’t know what has happened, i seen a Facebook memory thing from a few years ago, basically saying stuff along the lines of that i had enough of being stressed and annoyed with other people. So this isn’t a new thing, but i seem to hit this time of year where things just overwhelm me. I’m not at a stage where i think i need antidepressants or stuff like that. I have always had this attitude of the good things are usually balanced out by the bad and recent years for all the good stuff we have had, there has just been shite stuff happen at the back of it and I don’t know if the shite stuff seems to be amplified in my head, but it seems like it outweighs the good. It’s go seem daft, and be honest if it does, but when we are bickering over silly things, I actually notice other couples around me that seem to be so happy. When things are good with us, it is really good but at times, i let the silly wee arguments linger in my head.
I don’t even know where i am going with this, but i needed to vent.
The thing is, in my head and even written down i know what the problems are, i just don’t seem to have the solutions.

Apologies if none of this makes sense.


It’s bad, but for years I’ve hated this time of year. Expense, hassle, stress.
Try not to be too hard on the kids but at the same time, don’t let them away with murder. Use this thread to vent as and when you need. I’ve had the issue for a long time of feeling that while nothing is wrong really, then compounding that with feeling guilty because “I’ve no problems really”. It’s bullshit, while there’s obviously much worse scenarios in the world it doesn’t mean that your problems, stresses, worries aren’t valid. I’m sure the kids and Mrs B still love you, even if you’re crabbit sometimes. Make sure you tell them you love them as well, and apologise now and again if you think you probably should
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It’s bad, but for years I’ve hated this time of year. Expense, hassle, stress.

Try not to be too hard on the kids but at the same time, don’t let them away with murder. Use this thread to vent as and when you need. I’ve had the issue for a long time of feeling that while nothing is wrong really, then compounding that with feeling guilty because “I’ve no problems really”. It’s bullshit, while there’s obviously much worse scenarios in the world it doesn’t mean that your problems, stresses, worries aren’t valid. I’m sure the kids and Mrs B still love you, even if you’re crabbit sometimes. Make sure you tell them you love them as well, and apologise now and again if you think you probably should

 

You know what, think that top line is where i am maybe falling down and need to work on finding the balance between the two.

Definitely. Have felt like this for a wee while and been tempted to put it all down here and then read this thread and thought it seems trivial.

I do tend to apologise if i do over react a bit, then hate myself for doing so (over reacting, not apologising).

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You know what, think that top line is where i am maybe falling down and need to work on finding the balance between the two.
Definitely. Have felt like this for a wee while and been tempted to put it all down here and then read this thread and thought it seems trivial.
I do tend to apologise if i do over react a bit, then hate myself for doing so (over reacting, not apologising).

The best of luck with that. This year I’m coping okay so far, managed to get a list together of Christmas presents required and ordered them all. Just to hope they turn up in time and I’ve not fucked it.
It might seem trivial compared to other folks issues but with the best will in the world, their problems don’t affect you like yours do.
We all overreact sometimes, at least you’re apologising when / if you do - can’t say fairer than that. Try not to be too hard on yourself as well, something else I really struggle with - if I treated people the way I treat myself with my inner monologue I’d be surprised if anyone spoke to me ever again.
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See being at loggerheads as a positive. Means you’re a parent who cares and has expectations and standards you’re trying impart on them. They’ll thank you eventually! 
 

I too hate this time of year. 

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The best of luck with that. This year I’m coping okay so far, managed to get a list together of Christmas presents required and ordered them all. Just to hope they turn up in time and I’ve not fucked it.

Try not to be too hard on yourself as well, something else I really struggle with - if I treated people the way I treat myself with my inner monologue I’d be surprised if anyone spoke to me ever again.


Thats the worst thing about getting Christmas stuff sorted, the hope it will be here in time. The delivery companies work round the clock at this time, but it is an anxious wait.

I have never thought of it like that. And it might be a way for me to think going forward as well. I am now glad i posted in here, Cheers.
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Thats the worst thing about getting Christmas stuff sorted, the hope it will be here in time. The delivery companies work round the clock at this time, but it is an anxious wait.

I have never thought of it like that. And it might be a way for me to think going forward as well. I am now glad i posted in here, Cheers.

Present for my nephew is due between 13-27th Dec. Can almost guarantee it’ll be 27th but ah well.
Not at all, that’s what the thread is here for!
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