The Woolshed Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 Cheers, I'll check it out Really hope it all works out for you mate. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JogaBonito Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 (edited) Finally getting round to filling out employment allowance stuff. Completed a questionnaire that's to be returned to ATOS - the name alone is causing me to shit-bricks after hearing all of the horror stories. Haven't heard back from my interview and it's been two weeks. I really should get my thumb out and contact them, but talking on the phone is an absolute nightmare and the thought of rejection alone is fucking terrifying. I'm a 24 year old man ffs.. Edited October 27, 2014 by JogaBonito 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YassinMoutaouakil Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 (edited) I really don't want to sound as cunty as possible but thi thread really does put things in perspective whenever I'm feeling sorry for myself. Really hope everything ends up alright for you all. I'm not sure what use I'd be but I have literally nothing else to do most of the time so I'm always open for a PM. Edited October 27, 2014 by YassinMoutaouakil 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NotThePars Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 Don't feel like the shite that's getting you down doesn't count just cause other folk might be dealing with objectively worse things. If it's bothering you then it's worth looking at. That thought held me and still holds me back. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JogaBonito Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 I really don't want to sound as cunty as possible but thi thread really does put things in perspective whenever I'm feeling sorry for myself. Really hope everything ends up alright for you all. I'm not sure what use I'd be but I have literally nothing else to do most of the time so I'm always open for a PM. Don't beat yourself out. The weird thing is that there are probably a few people you come across on a daily basis (e.g your postie, your manager, a siblings partner etc..) who are suffering, but feel the need to put on a facade because of the stigma (which is still prevalent despite what the media tells you). We could all try and be compassionate and gentler to one another. We're all human, and can instinctively judge ourselves based on our intent, whilst judging everyone else on their actions. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fireplace Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 I've been feeling much better but have started arguing with my girlfriend about how I've been. Previously I've had big blow outs or felt down I've just kind of ridden over it and got back to normal. Because of what happened I can't really do that this time, but I feel like my girlfriend is using this to be controlling. She has basically said that she doesn't want me to go out until I've 'got this sorted out' and we had a huge argument when she wanted me to go to the doctor and ask for anti-depressants. I don't want to never be able to see my mates, go out, have a drink again. I feel fine now, I know that if I went out for a pint it'd be fine and I'd be OK. Whenever I go out for a night out or a beer my girlfriend always made me feel bad, constantly asking when I was due home, guilt-tripping me for leaving her alone. I think that might contribute to the way I drink recklessly and that if we just agreed that I'm going out, I'll be back later, if I'm going to be late I'll phone I'd be better. I don't think she can do it though. I spoke to one of my close friends (the only one who knows about me trying to off myself) and she said that maybe my gf needs to reset her expectations when I'm going out. I asked my GP about anti-depressants and he said that it wasn't a good idea as I was feeling better, if I'd been down for the entire time then it'd be a more realistic option. I explained this to my girlfriend but she didn't seem to accept it. She's used to hearing what she wants, to be honest I just tell her what she wants to hear most of the time and what happened makes me feel that I shouldn't, I should be honest and try to be happy with it. I'm worried that if I try to be honest I'll just end up back where I was. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gav-ffc Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 Thought i would add to this thread. I have recently been diagnosed with depression after fighting it for the last 12/16 months, mainly started with issues with Dad and only seeing him twice in 10 years after he left and being neglected again has got to me alot this time. I can be quite a loud and hapy person at times but when it came to socialising and meeting new people or being around people i didnt take to well then i would hide away and do eveything i could to not go or find an excuse not to go. I finally got myself to my GP and explained as much as i could and he advised me to go and get counselling and i have done so via FDMHA which is based next to Falkirk retail park. He said it could take up to 3 months but 2 weeks later and i had my counselling sorted and they supply 8, 50 minute session for free and this has been a big help to me through a hard time. I was also signed off work for 6 weeks near enough as my medication wasnt working ( citalpram 20mg) this was upped to 40mg recently as still not feeling any effects. I am now back at work ( which is still shit) and getting back to being more like myself now and its onwards and upwards. My advice to anyone who thinks they may be depressed, get to your GP, speak to loved ones around you and make sure they understand. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lyle Lanley Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 Was at the Western this morning. I have put on a 3rd of a stone. Which is quite good because i lost about 2 stone last year and i'm thin at the moment. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JogaBonito Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 I've been feeling much better but have started arguing with my girlfriend about how I've been. Previously I've had big blow outs or felt down I've just kind of ridden over it and got back to normal. Because of what happened I can't really do that this time, but I feel like my girlfriend is using this to be controlling. She has basically said that she doesn't want me to go out until I've 'got this sorted out' and we had a huge argument when she wanted me to go to the doctor and ask for anti-depressants. I don't want to never be able to see my mates, go out, have a drink again. I feel fine now, I know that if I went out for a pint it'd be fine and I'd be OK. Whenever I go out for a night out or a beer my girlfriend always made me feel bad, constantly asking when I was due home, guilt-tripping me for leaving her alone. I think that might contribute to the way I drink recklessly and that if we just agreed that I'm going out, I'll be back later, if I'm going to be late I'll phone I'd be better. I don't think she can do it though. I spoke to one of my close friends (the only one who knows about me trying to off myself) and she said that maybe my gf needs to reset her expectations when I'm going out. Have you considered inviting your gf to join you on a night out? Engage her in some of the group chatter and I'm sure she won't complain about being left out or something. Or go out one night with your mates, then treat your partner to a weekend away/fancy meal in/spa day or something? It's probably quite emotionally taxing for a partner (I know how much it must be for yourself personally), as I'm sure she's probably supportive during your down-times? (I hate being a contrarian because I probably sound really snooty, but hopefully a differing view-point helps). My advice to anyone who thinks they may be depressed, get to your GP, speak to loved ones around you and make sure they understand. Wise words! Good to hear something is working out for you. I too am on citalopram (40mg) and it seems to be helping! Carry on the fine work. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mattydfc Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 Da baracus where is it that you work? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EdgarusQPFC Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 Feeling really conflicted today 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paranoid android Posted October 28, 2014 Author Share Posted October 28, 2014 Feeling really conflicted today What's up, bud? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DA Baracus Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 Da baracus where is it that you work? At Ninewells 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EdgarusQPFC Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 What's up, bud? I dunno if the girl I'm seeing is the problem or the cure 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paranoid android Posted October 28, 2014 Author Share Posted October 28, 2014 I dunno if the girl I'm seeing is the problem or the cure I can totally relate to that, mate. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mattydfc Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 At Ninewells Whereabouts? I work there as well. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DA Baracus Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 Whereabouts? I work there as well. Level 7. What about you? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Ginger Prince Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 I am such a cuntingly horrible person when I really think about it. Having an absolute nightmare at the moment and can't begin to see where it ends 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raidernation Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 Finally found out why I'm feeling like shit, I have stomach cancer. I just want to run away 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EdgarusQPFC Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 Finally found out why I'm feeling like shit, I have stomach cancer. I just want to run away Jesus Christ, I'm really sorry to hear that 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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