Jimmy Shaker Posted November 18, 2022 Share Posted November 18, 2022 Three weeks old today. Sound effects are legit. IMG_9897.MP4 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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hk blues Posted November 19, 2022 Share Posted November 19, 2022 17 hours ago, sailorcowden said: I have worked with a lot of guys from the Phillipines and the sacrifices that they make to make sure their families are taken care of is extraordinary. Really take my hat off to them. Remember about a decade ago when Typhoon Haiyan made landfall over the islands. Guys not knowing if their families were safe or their homes still standing and just getting up to go to work day in day out. It was a very hard time from the outside looking in, nevermind being directly affected by it. Nothing but respect for people who can go through so much time away to care for their folks. Indeed. Unfortunately, in many cases they are not only taking care of their own family but the extended family as well. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FK1Bairn Posted November 19, 2022 Share Posted November 19, 2022 My 7 year old came home with a letter from school on Thursday to say a poem he had written in class had been selected for publishing in a childrens book being released at the end of January. We had to give permission for this first but how can you say no? Beyond proud of him, his mum and I have been telling everybody we know yet he couldn't care less 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottsdad Posted November 19, 2022 Share Posted November 19, 2022 My youngest brought home a chicken wrap she made in home economics. She tried to get me to eat it with the reassuring words "it's probably not raw". 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacksgranda Posted November 19, 2022 Share Posted November 19, 2022 Got the Bairn's name right there with the 4th attempt... 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RH33 Posted November 19, 2022 Share Posted November 19, 2022 21 hours ago, Jimmy Shaker said: Three weeks old today. Sound effects are legit. IMG_9897.MP4 2.19 MB · 0 downloads Turns out baby grows are way they are at shoulders so you can take them off down the way if covered in shite. Only found this out last year. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bairnardo Posted November 19, 2022 Share Posted November 19, 2022 54 minutes ago, RH33 said: Turns out baby grows are way they are at shoulders so you can take them off down the way if covered in shite. Only found this out last year. Your status as thread oracle at risk here.... Even I knew that. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Florentine_Pogen Posted November 19, 2022 Share Posted November 19, 2022 24 minutes ago, Bairnardo said: Your status as thread oracle at risk here.... Even I knew that. I didn't. This is not a new phenomenon. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
derrybiy Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 Any tips for how to prepare for your first? Our first is due in May and now that we've had the 12 week scan it's becoming a reality that we can't ignore. It wasn't unplanned but it feels like it because we feel much less maternal and paternal than most of the rest of our mates who are a few years into being parents. We're still only in our late 20's but our focus has been on houses, big holidays, a dog, a wedding and essentially anything else. It's also been timed with me soon changing from a job working from home 5 days a week with decent pay to initially being out 12 hours a day Monday to Thursday with a 3 day weekend but much less pay. We think we can continue to afford our current house and we can afford 9 months maternity leave but we'll find out. Also when I'm working my wife will have the baby and a dog to contend with. I did briefly consider reading the last 755 pages but that seems like a waste of time. I know you can never be ready but I'm hoping there will be a decent book, podcast or general advice to read for a man who knows very little. I'm well aware that I'll have much less / no time to myself so I'm getting ready for that. I'm also not too worried about not being able to handle it because I just think about how everyone I know has ultimately managed somehow. What I'm hoping for is general advice about what we should be focusing on? So of course after speaking to family/friends and before googling randomy I thought it's worth asking P&B. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Moonster Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 9 hours ago, derrybiy said: Any tips for how to prepare for your first? Our first is due in May and now that we've had the 12 week scan it's becoming a reality that we can't ignore. It wasn't unplanned but it feels like it because we feel much less maternal and paternal than most of the rest of our mates who are a few years into being parents. We're still only in our late 20's but our focus has been on houses, big holidays, a dog, a wedding and essentially anything else. It's also been timed with me soon changing from a job working from home 5 days a week with decent pay to initially being out 12 hours a day Monday to Thursday with a 3 day weekend but much less pay. We think we can continue to afford our current house and we can afford 9 months maternity leave but we'll find out. Also when I'm working my wife will have the baby and a dog to contend with. I did briefly consider reading the last 755 pages but that seems like a waste of time. I know you can never be ready but I'm hoping there will be a decent book, podcast or general advice to read for a man who knows very little. I'm well aware that I'll have much less / no time to myself so I'm getting ready for that. I'm also not too worried about not being able to handle it because I just think about how everyone I know has ultimately managed somehow. What I'm hoping for is general advice about what we should be focusing on? So of course after speaking to family/friends and before googling randomy I thought it's worth asking P&B. I'm just over 5 months deep with our wee yin and I would say to prepare yourself for the first 3 months being utterly shite, you being constantly tired and probably countless times you'll question if you're capable of doing it. Things get immeasurably better after that though (or has done for me). Their bodies work a bit better, they start seeing properly and reacting to things and wee tiny things will bring you so much joy. As for what you should know, nurses and health visitors will tell you the really important stuff but you'll realise very quickly that everyone is just fucking winging it and you'll find what works for you and your wee yin. Get into a routine that suits you all as quickly as you can and you'll be fine. All the best. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacksgranda Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 9 hours ago, derrybiy said: Any tips for how to prepare for your first? Our first is due in May and now that we've had the 12 week scan it's becoming a reality that we can't ignore. It wasn't unplanned but it feels like it because we feel much less maternal and paternal than most of the rest of our mates who are a few years into being parents. We're still only in our late 20's but our focus has been on houses, big holidays, a dog, a wedding and essentially anything else. It's also been timed with me soon changing from a job working from home 5 days a week with decent pay to initially being out 12 hours a day Monday to Thursday with a 3 day weekend but much less pay. We think we can continue to afford our current house and we can afford 9 months maternity leave but we'll find out. Also when I'm working my wife will have the baby and a dog to contend with. I did briefly consider reading the last 755 pages but that seems like a waste of time. I know you can never be ready but I'm hoping there will be a decent book, podcast or general advice to read for a man who knows very little. I'm well aware that I'll have much less / no time to myself so I'm getting ready for that. I'm also not too worried about not being able to handle it because I just think about how everyone I know has ultimately managed somehow. What I'm hoping for is general advice about what we should be focusing on? So of course after speaking to family/friends and before googling randomy I thought it's worth asking P&B. Read the last 755 pages... 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hk blues Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 10 hours ago, derrybiy said: Any tips for how to prepare for your first? Our first is due in May and now that we've had the 12 week scan it's becoming a reality that we can't ignore. It wasn't unplanned but it feels like it because we feel much less maternal and paternal than most of the rest of our mates who are a few years into being parents. We're still only in our late 20's but our focus has been on houses, big holidays, a dog, a wedding and essentially anything else. It's also been timed with me soon changing from a job working from home 5 days a week with decent pay to initially being out 12 hours a day Monday to Thursday with a 3 day weekend but much less pay. We think we can continue to afford our current house and we can afford 9 months maternity leave but we'll find out. Also when I'm working my wife will have the baby and a dog to contend with. I did briefly consider reading the last 755 pages but that seems like a waste of time. I know you can never be ready but I'm hoping there will be a decent book, podcast or general advice to read for a man who knows very little. I'm well aware that I'll have much less / no time to myself so I'm getting ready for that. I'm also not too worried about not being able to handle it because I just think about how everyone I know has ultimately managed somehow. What I'm hoping for is general advice about what we should be focusing on? So of course after speaking to family/friends and before googling randomy I thought it's worth asking P&B. I was 47 when we had our first, the wife was 35. We were living in Hong Kong at the time to add to the mix so dealing with how things are done there rather than at home. And me and the wife are from different countries and cultures. In Hong Kong you are on your own after bringing the baby home - no health visitor or such help or advice. You've got it easy mate! Seriously though, we just took it one step at a time - got the check-ups done when we had to (ok, when she had to) and whatever admin for the birth that was needed was a priority. And as the time same closer we bought the key stuff such as cot and pram and clothes etc to get us through the first few days and weeks. It's as complicated or as easy as you want it to be. Just make sure you don't get too bogged down in the enormity of it all, and it can be, and make sure you enjoy the experience. Oh, and make sure you get his/her name down for a season ticket to Dens ASAP! Good Luck mate, although you won't need it! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugster Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 33 minutes ago, Jacksgranda said: Read the last 755 pages... Seconded. Definitely worth reading through. Bucketloads of advice on a myriad of issues. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottsdad Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 10 hours ago, derrybiy said: Any tips for how to prepare for your first? Our first is due in May and now that we've had the 12 week scan it's becoming a reality that we can't ignore. It wasn't unplanned but it feels like it because we feel much less maternal and paternal than most of the rest of our mates who are a few years into being parents. We're still only in our late 20's but our focus has been on houses, big holidays, a dog, a wedding and essentially anything else. It's also been timed with me soon changing from a job working from home 5 days a week with decent pay to initially being out 12 hours a day Monday to Thursday with a 3 day weekend but much less pay. We think we can continue to afford our current house and we can afford 9 months maternity leave but we'll find out. Also when I'm working my wife will have the baby and a dog to contend with. I did briefly consider reading the last 755 pages but that seems like a waste of time. I know you can never be ready but I'm hoping there will be a decent book, podcast or general advice to read for a man who knows very little. I'm well aware that I'll have much less / no time to myself so I'm getting ready for that. I'm also not too worried about not being able to handle it because I just think about how everyone I know has ultimately managed somehow. What I'm hoping for is general advice about what we should be focusing on? So of course after speaking to family/friends and before googling randomy I thought it's worth asking P&B. On feeling maternal/paternal, I was in a similar situation. My son was planned but even through the early scans it felt a bit unreal. I remember the moment I felt paternal for the very first time. I went to Toys R Us in Cardiff to buy a cot. I was there myself, picked up the cot and paid at the till. I was walking out the shop carrying it, thinking about getting home and building my kid his first bed - it really hit me right there and then. Even now, around 18 years later, I remember the moment. Not everyone will have a moment like that, but trust me, by the time you have the wee one in your life you'll wonder how you every lived any other way. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hk blues Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 18 minutes ago, scottsdad said: ... by the time you have the wee one in your life you'll wonder how you every lived any other way. I don't know if it's unnatural but, as I said in a post above I was 47 before getting started and I can honestly say I enjoyed my "previous life" every bit as much as the new one. I don't just mean enjoyed but enjoyed just as much. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottsdad Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 8 minutes ago, hk blues said: I don't know if it's unnatural but, as I said in a post above I was 47 before getting started and I can honestly say I enjoyed my "previous life" every bit as much as the new one. I don't just mean enjoyed but enjoyed just as much. Might make a difference. I'm 43 and cannot imagine having a new baby now! 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hk blues Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 7 minutes ago, scottsdad said: Might make a difference. I'm 43 and cannot imagine having a new baby now! At 43 I was the same! 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
derrybiy Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 Cheers everyone. I'll do a mixture of reading this thread, possibly buying a book and winging it. The replies here and first few pages of the thread put me more at ease. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RH33 Posted November 23, 2022 Share Posted November 23, 2022 4 hours ago, derrybiy said: Cheers everyone. I'll do a mixture of reading this thread, possibly buying a book and winging it. The replies here and first few pages of the thread put me more at ease. I've done a fair amount of winging it over last 14 year. I know bother HSF and I did baby led weaning and was less.bassle that purees! I've got three and none of them are the same. The one thing I wasn't prepared for was my inability to produce enough milk and in turn the horrible time from the midwives. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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