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Well it's confirmed - my other half is expecting, again. She's had an abortion in the past and said she nearly died so won't even contemplate it so we are definitely having the baby. I'm gutted, more so for my baby who won't get the attention she deserves with another one before she's even 1 ffs :(. Just have to deal with it I suppose.

Wow, I hope you're less of a selfish w****r when your baby is born.

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Wow, I hope you're less of a selfish w****r when your baby is born.

Was thinking something fairly similar. Probably best even if thinking that way not to post it for the world to read tbh.

361 days between my two boys. They have a great bond. There are parts of it that have been like having twins I expect but in reality there are parts not as easy and parts probably easier. Now they are 5 and 6 it's great and they are very close but very different (and we made sure they were in different school years which I think is probably the best course of action). One is sporty, one prefers to read his books. Younger one adores the older one in particular though.

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I can kind of sympathise with where hibs is, I fell pregnant with my third and it took me a long while to be happy about it. Don't get me wrong I wouldn't change my youngest for the world (well there's days!) but we'd had a rough 15 months with our second due to allergies, reflux and a couple of convulsions. The thought of going through it all again just wasn't something I was ready for.

But she was a great baby and none of the issues her sister has. She's a total character and I wouldn't change her for the world but I was at least half way through my pregnancy before I was comfortable with the thought. There are 2.5 years between my 1st and 2nd and 22 months between 2nd and 3rd.

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So bambino's wife claims she's on the pill, still gets pregnant, then claims she nearly died from an abortion before, hence they have to have the baby, an unexpected and unwanted event from bambino's point-of-view, most notably that he wanted to give as much love and attention to their first kid who only recently arrived.

Yet somehow this instantly makes him a 'selfish w****r' and such.

What the fcuk, P&B.

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My step-daughter and her boyfriend showed us their scan picture. She's 13 weeks now and we simply cannot get excited about our first grandchild.

The boyfriend is - well - scum. He's serving his community service, never had a job, no plans for a job. Blows all his benefit money on motorbikes which leaves us sending food parcels a week later. And he is in no way, shape or form fit or ready to be any kind of father.

My wife is convinced that social services will show up at our door, kid in hands, asking us to take it.

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So bambino's wife claims she's on the pill, still gets pregnant, then claims she nearly died from an abortion before, hence they have to have the baby, an unexpected and unwanted event from bambino's point-of-view, most notably that he wanted to give as much love and attention to their first kid who only recently arrived.

Yet somehow this instantly makes him a 'selfish w****r' and such.

What the fcuk, P&B.

Cheers mate. Each to their own I suppose. I don't get it though.

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Well it's confirmed - my other half is expecting, again. She's had an abortion in the past and said she nearly died so won't even contemplate it so we are definitely having the baby. I'm gutted, more so for my baby who won't get the attention she deserves with another one before she's even 1 ffs :(. Just have to deal with it I suppose.

Cheers mate. Each to their own I suppose. I don't get it though.

You post that you are "gutted" your other half is pregnant. Especially so close to the last one. You are "more so" (but the implication is not exclusively) for your daughter who apparently won't get the attention she deserves now (not quite sure why? I don't recall any great problem with first children becoming unloved if their siblings are born too close to them). And you'll grudgingly "have to deal with it".

And you "don't get" why other people thought you were being selfish?

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You post that you are "gutted" your other half is pregnant. Especially so close to the last one. You are "more so" (but the implication is not exclusively) for your daughter who apparently won't get the attention she deserves now (not quite sure why? I don't recall any great problem with first children becoming unloved if their siblings are born too close to them). And you'll grudgingly "have to deal with it".

And you "don't get" why other people thought you were being selfish?

My natural reaction is gutted mainly for my baby.

I won't grudgingly anything. I'm 9 months away from baby arriving and by that time it will get all the love and affection in the world.

Of course I'm worried with new baby on the scene my 4 month old won't get as much exclusive attention as it would have if my other half had another baby in say 3 years time.

How you can say I'm selfish in all this is baffling too.

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My natural reaction is gutted mainly for my baby.

I won't grudgingly anything. I'm 9 months away from baby arriving and by that time it will get all the love and affection in the world.

Of course I'm worried with new baby on the scene my 4 month old won't get as much exclusive attention as it would have if my other half had another baby in say 3 years time.

How you can say I'm selfish in all this is baffling too.

I don't have kids of my own so I'm basing this on my sister-in-law's situation. She has a 3 month old and a 3 year old (and an 8 year old but that's irrelevant in this instance) and let me tell you, it's the 3 year old who is currently receiving the most attention as he is at a wild stage. I'm pretty sure your youngest will get more attention being so close to your oldest than he/she would if the oldest was in fact 3 years older.

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I don't have kids of my own so I'm basing this on my sister-in-law's situation. She has a 3 month old and a 3 year old (and an 8 year old but that's irrelevant in this instance) and let me tell you, it's the 3 year old who is currently receiving the most attention as he is at a wild stage. I'm pretty sure your youngest will get more attention being so close to your oldest than he/she would if the oldest was in fact 3 years older.

Perhaps the wild stage is down to the other baby being born and craves attention?

I don't know, I'm a new dad as it is.

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Perhaps the wild stage is down to the other baby being born and craves attention?

I don't know, I'm a new dad as it is.

That's what the thought was but he is getting more than the bulk of the attention. It's just lucky the youngest is such a content wee soul tbh. The oldest nephew was 'wild' when he was 3 as well. It's as if they skip the terrible two's (as they were both great at 2) and go straight to the terrible three's :lol:

I seriously wouldn't worry that you're youngest will get less attention. I reckon the small age gap will have the opposite effect. It'll be extremely hard work for you and your partner mind you! :P

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So bambino's wife claims she's on the pill, still gets pregnant, then claims she nearly died from an abortion before, hence they have to have the baby, an unexpected and unwanted event from bambino's point-of-view, most notably that he wanted to give as much love and attention to their first kid who only recently arrived.

Yet somehow this instantly makes him a 'selfish w****r' and such.

What the fcuk, P&B.

This is outstanding. Ridiculously predictable, but outstanding nonetheless.

The guy's post sounded harsher than intended (hopefully). There's no need for you to sound the men's rights horn here.

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Cheers mate. Each to their own I suppose. I don't get it though.

No problem, and good luck. There's quite the stigma around unwanted/unexpected pregnancies/kids, mothers not feeling connections to their babies and the guilt that follows, the massive change in lifestyle that can follow that lead people to regret having kids, etc, etc. From what I've read, these kind of things are a far more common experience than people generally admit to.

This is outstanding. Ridiculously predictable, but outstanding nonetheless.

The guy's post sounded harsher than intended (hopefully). There's no need for you to sound the men's rights horn here.

That bad manny with perspective and empathy that extends to men as well as women again, eh? The horror :(

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It's Christmas time! Yay! Well, nearly. My wife had the kids writing Santa lists on Sunday, which they posted to Santa.

The two oldest wanted Paw Patrol stuff. We should really have checked availability of this stuff before writing to Santa. Couldn't get them online for less than £29, so spent most of yesterday going round stores trying to find the whole set. I ended up giving in and paying the £29 for Zuma and his Hovercraft. Got the rest for £12.99.

Second hand, good quality bikes are pretty good value on Gumtree. Got a Specialised Hotrocks bike for my oldest girl and a Ridgeback for the youngest girl.

What are your kids requesting from Santa this year?

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It's Christmas time! Yay! Well, nearly. My wife had the kids writing Santa lists on Sunday, which they posted to Santa.

The two oldest wanted Paw Patrol stuff. We should really have checked availability of this stuff before writing to Santa. Couldn't get them online for less than £29, so spent most of yesterday going round stores trying to find the whole set. I ended up giving in and paying the £29 for Zuma and his Hovercraft. Got the rest for £12.99.

Second hand, good quality bikes are pretty good value on Gumtree. Got a Specialised Hotrocks bike for my oldest girl and a Ridgeback for the youngest girl.

What are your kids requesting from Santa this year?

Got the paw patrol walkie talkies for the youngest - two - as well as peppa stuff, aquadoodle etc.

Oldest 6 is getting Disney infinity 3.0 for PlayStation and Frozen "magic" sleeve which already wasn't easy to come by

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It's Christmas time!

What are your kids requesting from Santa this year?

The youngest grandson shouts "Buy me, buy me", whenever the adverts come on, no matter what it is.

Granny just says "Yes".

(Parents have yet to be informed what is expected in Noah's stocking.)

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The youngest grandson shouts "Buy me, buy me", whenever the adverts come on, no matter what it is.

Granny just says "Yes".

(Parents have yet to be informed what is expected in Noah's stocking.)

I tell my kids that the adverts are just people trying to sell us stuff. Ignore them. Doesn't work.

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