Raithie Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 Our wee one will be 21 months on the 1st December. Whilst he's not 2 years old yet I can definitely see where the term 'terrible 2's' comes from. He wasn't properly walking til about 19 months but his speech has been ridiculously good for quite a while now. I think his new found independence and wanting to express himself more and more is frustrating him. His night time routine has went down the tubes and he's frequently getting up and not wanting to go back down unless he comes through beside us. We've tried controlled crying but it just gets him more and more worked up. What we've noticed is, when he starts crying during the night and we go to check on him, he's still asleep. Not sure if he's maybe having night terrors. I say that but he slept all night last night so there's no real pattern at the moment. Really looking forward to Christmas this year with him though 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1888bhoy67 Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 Our wee one will be 21 months on the 1st December. Whilst he's not 2 years old yet I can definitely see where the term 'terrible 2's' comes from. He wasn't properly walking til about 19 months but his speech has been ridiculously good for quite a while now. I think his new found independence and wanting to express himself more and more is frustrating him. His night time routine has went down the tubes and he's frequently getting up and not wanting to go back down unless he comes through beside us. We've tried controlled crying but it just gets him more and more worked up. What we've noticed is, when he starts crying during the night and we go to check on him, he's still asleep. Not sure if he's maybe having night terrors. I say that but he slept all night last night so there's no real pattern at the moment. Really looking forward to Christmas this year with him though Our second youngest turned 2 a few weeks ago and she's an absolute nightmare for tantrums just now, and her bed time routine has gone too for some reason, she just won't go into her own bed without an almighty screaming match and just gets louder and louder the longer she's left!! She won't settle at all unless she's in our bed and she's the only one that's done this, there's just nothing that will get her to settle in her own bed, which is strange as she was fine for a few months after she moved from a cot to the cotbed, but now she's a complete madam and will not calm down until she gets in to ours!!! It's murder at night now 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ayrgirl Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 Congratulations to you all! November babies are statistically proven to be the best Really? There's two of them in my house and I'd disagree with that Congrats DHD 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raithie Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 Our second youngest turned 2 a few weeks ago and she's an absolute nightmare for tantrums just now, and her bed time routine has gone too for some reason, she just won't go into her own bed without an almighty screaming match and just gets louder and louder the longer she's left!! She won't settle at all unless she's in our bed and she's the only one that's done this, there's just nothing that will get her to settle in her own bed, which is strange as she was fine for a few months after she moved from a cot to the cotbed, but now she's a complete madam and will not calm down until she gets in to ours!!! It's murder at night now Sounds like a similar situation to ourselves. I can't really complain considering how easy we've had it with him up until now. I'm guessing he'll be more aware of his surroundings and how to manipulate his parents into getting what he wants. He'll be chuffed to bits to know it's working . 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1888bhoy67 Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 Ive come down to the conclusion that everything from now on is "just a phase she's going through". No point in trying to work it out. When you accept this, life is so much smoother 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reina Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 Repeat the following mantra, "this too shall pass, this too shall pass", as you are rocking in the corner with your head in your hands. Just me? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shuggie_Murray7 Posted November 28, 2013 Share Posted November 28, 2013 The wee boy as decided he's going to be like his big sister by deciding he's had enough of this sleeping carry on. He has absolutely fine for coming up on 9 months but the last fortnight he's been a wee terror. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thehoss Posted November 30, 2013 Share Posted November 30, 2013 There was a funny book for dads on this thread that was recommended but can't find the post now? Was it the expectant dad's survival guide or something like that? Thanks. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1888bhoy67 Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 Our youngest has decided it's far more fun to blow raspberry's as soon as she's had a spoonful of food put in her mouth 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RH33 Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 I'm getting my wee one weighed and measured tomorrow. She's 9.5 months now. Finally coming to terms as to what happened when I had her and not being able to have more. Well seeing she's the third, first wouldn't have been allowed anywhere near junk food! Big sister is 2.5 going on 22. Never shuts up. And my biggest who was born not long before this thread was started! He was meant to start school in August but despite being a sept birthday we defered him. Best decision I've made. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
energyzone Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 My wee boy is 3 months today and weighs exactly a stone. He was born with Down's Syndrome which came as a huge shock to us as we were considered "low risk" when we underwent the tests. There was something like a 1 in 1180 chance and unfortunately we were it. We were told around 15 minutes after he was born that he had certain characteristics indicitave of a chromosomal condition. Looking back it did seem that the paediatricians had him over at the weighing station for longer than seemed necessary, however it was a bit of a traumatic birth (forceps) and he is our first child so we didn't know any better. When we were told our world just caved in on us. I nearly fainted, had to go to the toilet to compose myself and only came back so soon because my wife was in tears. We didn't really take anything in that we were being told. Because it was a night birth we were taken to a room and then left in the darkness, confused, scared, angry and helpless. What should have been the happiest night of our lives turned out to be the worst. Because my wife was so upset I had to be strong for her, even though I didn't feel it, and I suppose this helped me come to terms with it a lot sooner. I had two choices - collapse in a heap of tears and self pity or man up and look after my family. When I looked at him I realised nothing really mattered apart from the fact he was here. He was so small and helpless and had never harmed a soul in his life so any bad feelings I had were soon replaced. As for the future - who knows? We'll just have to take things as they come. He is such a good baby and is no hassle at all. He smiles away and laughs occasionally and has just started making all the baby talk noises which is good. I just hope we can do enough for him so he can lead as normal a life as possible. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1888bhoy67 Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 My wee boy is 3 months today and weighs exactly a stone. He was born with Down's Syndrome which came as a huge shock to us as we were considered "low risk" when we underwent the tests. There was something like a 1 in 1180 chance and unfortunately we were it. We were told around 15 minutes after he was born that he had certain characteristics indicitave of a chromosomal condition. Looking back it did seem that the paediatricians had him over at the weighing station for longer than seemed necessary, however it was a bit of a traumatic birth (forceps) and he is our first child so we didn't know any better. When we were told our world just caved in on us. I nearly fainted, had to go to the toilet to compose myself and only came back so soon because my wife was in tears. We didn't really take anything in that we were being told. Because it was a night birth we were taken to a room and then left in the darkness, confused, scared, angry and helpless. What should have been the happiest night of our lives turned out to be the worst. Because my wife was so upset I had to be strong for her, even though I didn't feel it, and I suppose this helped me come to terms with it a lot sooner. I had two choices - collapse in a heap of tears and self pity or man up and look after my family. When I looked at him I realised nothing really mattered apart from the fact he was here. He was so small and helpless and had never harmed a soul in his life so any bad feelings I had were soon replaced. As for the future - who knows? We'll just have to take things as they come. He is such a good baby and is no hassle at all. He smiles away and laughs occasionally and has just started making all the baby talk noises which is good. I just hope we can do enough for him so he can lead as normal a life as possible. Sorry to hear that buddy, But imo, (and i'm not trying to sound patronising at all) there is absolutely nothing to stop your wee one living a full and complete life, you just need to have a bit more patience and let him/er develop at a good pace, My wife's brother had downs, although he passed away before she was born, but from all the stories i've been told, he was such a character and lived a full life untill he passed at the age of 42, There are so many groups and services out there to give help and support, so make sure you and your wife use them!! 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adam Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 Sorry to hear that buddy, But imo, (and i'm not trying to sound patronising at all) there is absolutely nothing to stop your wee one living a full and complete life, you just need to have a bit more patience and let him/er develop at a good pace, My wife's brother had downs, although he passed away before she was born, but from all the stories i've been told, he was such a character and lived a full life untill he passed at the age of 42, There are so many groups and services out there to give help and support, so make sure you and your wife use them!! I don't mean to take this off topic, but your wife had a brother who was (over?) 42 years older than she is? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1888bhoy67 Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 (edited) I don't mean to take this off topic, but your wife had a brother who was (over?) 42 years older than she is? Aye, she was born a year after her brother died!! edit: sorry he was 32, not 42!!! Edited December 4, 2013 by 1888bhoy67 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacksgranda Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 My wee boy is 3 months today and weighs exactly a stone. He was born with Down's Syndrome which came as a huge shock to us as we were considered "low risk" when we underwent the tests. As for the future - who knows? We'll just have to take things as they come. He is such a good baby and is no hassle at all. He smiles away and laughs occasionally and has just started making all the baby talk noises which is good. I just hope we can do enough for him so he can lead as normal a life as possible. Downs' children can be high ability or low ability. Our daughter is high ability i.e. she can talk, write, spell, dress herself, feed herself, count her money, make cups of tea, sandwiches etc. She has to be supervised when operating the micro wave, but is quite capable of using the washing machine and the tumble drier. She can use the hoover, switch TV channels, work the DVD etc. She can pay her taxis and bus fares, although I'm not sure if she would know if she was being short changed or not. She can order her own meal in a restaurant. I don't know when they get diagnosed as high/low ability. (For all I know, there could be a medium ability level.) Special Schools are excellent - at least our local one is. Sometimes Downs children are integrated into the state system without going to a special school - find out what the story is with your local schools. There are various Downs Syndrome support/help groups - check them out. Have you got a social worker - although that can sometimes be a mixed blessing. Downs children in my experience, particularly the higher ability ones, are just as capable as other children, just a wee bit slower in reaching the various "goals". One of our daughter's ex-school mates works in our local supermarket (part time). 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa Cuddy Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 When I looked at him I realised nothing really mattered apart from the fact he was here. He was so small and helpless and had never harmed a soul in his life so any bad feelings I had were soon replaced. As for the future - who knows? We'll just have to take things as they come. He is such a good baby and is no hassle at all. He smiles away and laughs occasionally and has just started making all the baby talk noises which is good. I just hope we can do enough for him so he can lead as normal a life as possible. You sound like you've got it all sussed to me. I can't remember if you posted when he was born but just in case I haven't said it before, congratulations. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skyline Drifter Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 My wee boy is 3 months today and weighs exactly a stone. He was born with Down's Syndrome which came as a huge shock to us as we were considered "low risk" when we underwent the tests. There was something like a 1 in 1180 chance and unfortunately we were it. We were told around 15 minutes after he was born that he had certain characteristics indicitave of a chromosomal condition. Looking back it did seem that the paediatricians had him over at the weighing station for longer than seemed necessary, however it was a bit of a traumatic birth (forceps) and he is our first child so we didn't know any better. When we were told our world just caved in on us. I nearly fainted, had to go to the toilet to compose myself and only came back so soon because my wife was in tears. We didn't really take anything in that we were being told. Because it was a night birth we were taken to a room and then left in the darkness, confused, scared, angry and helpless. What should have been the happiest night of our lives turned out to be the worst. Because my wife was so upset I had to be strong for her, even though I didn't feel it, and I suppose this helped me come to terms with it a lot sooner. I had two choices - collapse in a heap of tears and self pity or man up and look after my family. When I looked at him I realised nothing really mattered apart from the fact he was here. He was so small and helpless and had never harmed a soul in his life so any bad feelings I had were soon replaced. As for the future - who knows? We'll just have to take things as they come. He is such a good baby and is no hassle at all. He smiles away and laughs occasionally and has just started making all the baby talk noises which is good. I just hope we can do enough for him so he can lead as normal a life as possible. Both of ours were "high risk" for Downs Syndrome (which apparently meant they had better than a 1 in 140 chance of having it or something like that). We turned down an amniocentisis on the basis that the risk of it inducing miscarriage was greater than the risk of them actually having it. In any event it wouldn't have mattered to us so there was no real incentive to find out. In the end neither of them had Downs but if they did I wouldn't love them any less. Thomas has had some developmental issues and might be on the autistic spectrum but I doubt there's anything seriously wrong with him and he's getting on very well now. Will start school next year. I'm sure it will be a rollercoaster for you but it will be a rewarding experience too. I wish you all the best of luck. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adam Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 Both of ours were "high risk" for Downs Syndrome (which apparently meant they had better than a 1 in 140 chance of having it or something like that). We turned down an amniocentisis on the basis that the risk of it inducing miscarriage was greater than the risk of them actually having it. In any event it wouldn't have mattered to us so there was no real incentive to find out. In the end neither of them had Downs but if they did I wouldn't love them any less. Thomas has had some developmental issues and might be on the autistic spectrum but I doubt there's anything seriously wrong with him and he's getting on very well now. Will start school next year. I'm sure it will be a rollercoaster for you but it will be a rewarding experience too. I wish you all the best of luck. For a while (the last 18 months/two years) we had a good idea that Charlie featured somewhere on the autism spectrum. He's incredibly intelligent for his age, his reading ability would rival that of an eight year old (he's five in just over a week), and has certain quirks which we have found strange. We were referred to a specialist to get a diagnosis, and after a number of visits over a period of months, he was diagnosed with Aspergers. He can be incredibly difficult to deal with at times, but I know when we finally had a diagnosis I was actually relieved more than anything. Now we knew what the problem was regarding his behaviour, we could actually do something about it. It may be a result of school more than anything (he was diagnosed shortly after starting in August) but the change in him since then has been remarkable. He's always been a fairly lovable boy, but he does seem much happier to see his mum or me after being away with his granny, or even when we got him from school today he said that he had really missed his mummy, something that he would never have said a year ago! Reading back, it appears that I've just rambled on a bit. My point is, even if your lad is on the spectrum, it's such a massive spectrum so he could be a perfectly happy, normal boy. Best of luck. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skyline Drifter Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 Reading back, it appears that I've just rambled on a bit. My point is, even if your lad is on the spectrum, it's such a massive spectrum so he could be a perfectly happy, normal boy. Oh he is. He's a fantastic boy and really easy to deal with (much easier than his younger brother). I'm not remotely worried about him. He's clearly bright, knows his numbers and letters, loves books, etc. Didn't mean to imply I was worried about him. He's a wee bit slower in developing than he should be. His brother at a year younger will do much more for himself like put shoes and clothes on / off, etc. Both of them have been toilet trained for a good while when awake but Thomas still needs night nappies whilst Steven has been dry at nights for at least six months. Thomas just can't seem to get the hang of it. He'd much rather have people do things for him than do them himself. Steven is the complete opposite. I'm not remotely worried about the autism thing. He may or may not be on the spectrum. If he is then I'm fairly sure it's not anything hugely significant. I wouldn't change him for the world. Best of luck to you too. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa Cuddy Posted December 4, 2013 Share Posted December 4, 2013 I'm a bit shocked that the father of my son says he's "fairly loveable". I honestly thought he liked him a bit more than that. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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