Phil1870

Decent game with Mayo again pushing Dublin very close, not many doing that repeatedly in recent years. Up the Dubs.

Woeful match but particularly from FCN, only pushed forward when Frankfurt scored. Looked capable of troubling them in the last twenty minutes so no idea why they tried to be so negative? Theres negative and then how they played. Frankfurt will need to strengthen in the summer as well mind, not a lot of quality in that squad.

Not sure what PR nonsense this is really, what exactly do Liverpool do thats different to other top clubs in England?

Give it a go, its definitely an option thats worth exploring. Theres charities also that specialise in these things where it doesn't have to cost you a fortune either. Thats been of great benefit to me. Just to be in an environment where you're one on one and you get all your thoughts, worries and tears out is a comforting feeling.

Have you considered counselling at all? I've been seeing one for the past 7-8 months and its been a great help to me. The guy I've seen has helped me go from the wreck I was to the guy I am now, one whos still having bad days but is also having more regular good days. I'd highly recommend it. Just to get a professionals opinion on your issues, they seem to have a way of helping you sort out your issues by making you see things in order.

Its the one year anniversary for me tomorrow of when I had to get away from Ireland, I'd broken down and paid €300 for a taxi to get me from Dublin to Belfast, I just needed to get on the boat and get back to Scotland. At that time I would never have believed there was a way out from my anguish. I spent many days crying for hours on end. Even to picture my sons face in my mind caused me to lose control of my emotions. I couldn't imagine getting to a stage where I felt I was getting myself back, the real me. But I am making progress, I'm now starting to see a bit of light at the end of the tunnel. All I'm meaning is that I know where your mind is at mate, I was there myself only a few months back. But it will get better. How have things been today with your friends?

I was destroyed as well mate, I felt as though there was nothing left of ME, I'd been manipulated and controlled for so long. But like you I loved my partner, and its taking me a long time to deal with my issues. I've found talking to be my greatest help, with family and close friends. I'm sure I'll have covered the same ground many a time in these conversations, but its important to remember that these people care about you and will be glad to lend an ear if it helps ease the burden on you. Speaking to people and getting things off your chest, it helps you to work through things in your mind. My journeys not complete but I'm in far better than I was when the break-up happened, I was destroyed and had no confidence in myself to turn it round. But I feel I'm starting to. And my greatest aid has simply been to talk, getting things out and working through them.

My depression has been caused by a traumatic break-up as well and I've had similar issues as yourself. I wont try and paint myself as having all the answers as I think everybody is different inside and we all have different ways of dealing with things and coping with our hurt. But talking is important. Have you tried to share how you're feeling, and where your head currently is with your friends and family? Maybe if you could they would perhaps have a better understanding of your current state of mind. I'm sure helping you is all any of them really want.

When you feel low its very hard to rise above the gloom, I know exactly how you feel. Fathers Day has been another horrible thing for me to get through. Has there been any particular cause for your low feeling lately?

Its a thought I've had, I'm making steps to improve my qualifications with the ultimate aim of bettering my career prospects. The trouble I'd have at this moment is the jobs I'd be likely to get wouldn't allow for me to live there with the cost of letting or buying. If I can beat my demons then its definitely a possibility, I miss the place terribly and feel under different circumstances I could have settled there for life.

Thanks for the feedback mate. Its kind of up and down with contact with my son, I'm trying to get over to see him as much as I possibly can but I know it'll never be an easy situation. I am doing ok now in many ways, when I think back to the place I was in when I left Ireland I can't quite believe I'm still here in some ways, I was badly broken up. Feel very lonely at times, difficult to cope with that feeling. Just taking my life a day at a time, trying to look to the future and not backwards.

Cheers Snudge. The problem I'm having is getting beyond things. It destroyed me when things didn't work out, I'd put so much into the relationship and wanted it to work out more than anything. Moving on seems impossible when I loved her the way I did. I feel in many ways I'm starting to get my life together which may help. But its hard to let go, even when my mental health has been so badly affected.

First time I've posted on this thread despite having browsed it for a good few months. I've been dealing with the aftermath of a horrible and heartbreaking break-up. The relationship had been 5 years, we had a wee boy who's my pride and joy. I had lived the previous 3 years of the relationship in Ireland with my girlfriend, where she came from, and had planned to make a life and a family for myself. And I tried everything in my power to make that happen. I was in a job I enjoyed, working with some really good guys who had made me feel welcomed and at ease from day one. I really liked the area I lived in, I felt at home really quicky. I had my son, who after an anxious premature birth was just my whole world. Things were on the way to being the perfect family life I'd envisaged. But last year things had changed for me, I realised that my life was being stripped away from me piece by piece. My girlfriend had always been difficult, she was always so insecure. I believed it was insecurity to begin with, but after time I realised it was completely unreasonable to the point it was being used to totally control me.. To glance at a newspaper with a picture of an attractive female made me a pervert, I was accused of looking at females when out and about, even when I hadn't. I'd always known it was there, but I loved her since I met her and this side of her hadn't been on show then. She was becoming ever more down on my family, my hobbies, everything. We lived surrounded by her large family, and she expected it of me to go along on all their weekly days out and ocassions. If I said no once in a while I was shunned, totally ignored by both her and her mother and certain other relatives. When it came to my family visiting once or twice a year though it was a completely different story. Her behaviour was disgusting, she couldn't have made things any more obvious that she had no interest in them. Not even for my sake. It was as if once I'd moved there she changed. My family were shunned, my support for my country or my team was belittled and in general it was as if I was to forget everything that had went before, everything that meant anything to me was to disappear, and was to be replaces by everything of hers. My thoughts and feelings seemed irrelevent, I was continuosly pushed until I had a breakdown. If it wasn't for my son I may have left sooner, in hindsight. I adore him and miss him terribly every day. I've been back in Scotland for a year, I've had counselling and continue to this day. Its still a struggle. I have good days but still many bad. Last weekend would have been our 6th anniversary, rather ironically it was Ireland v Scotland and it all resulted in me having a terrible day. I drank far too much and made a fool of myself in a local pub, falling about and bing a nuisance. I'd tried to block out my anguish by drowning them in alcohol, and of course it failed. I'm trying to make a positive out of my life now, I've been accepted for college in September, a mature student no less! But I want to improve my life, get a career I enjoy, and have a better life for myself and my wee boy. I'm trying to look ahead, but I'm not sure if or when I'll get fully through this. Anyone going through similar issues or any form of depression has my sympathy.

Globalising the game or selling out for profit? Cant see past it as a money making scheme to be honest, goes against the grain of everything the GAA should stand for.

Couldn't agree more, absolutely fantastic television. I've watched the boxset a good 4 or 5 times over the years but nothing beats the first time you see it, has your emotions all over the place. Soak it in Presters thats all id say!