Having a ongoing issue just now with a guy me and the wife know through my sister. He's a qualified mechanic and has been helping us out a lot lately as the car is due it's MOT and he services it before on the cheap for us, for which we are very grateful. However for the past two weeks he has been texting my wife and being somewhat suggestive e.g telling my wife not to get too drunk or he'll convince her to send him nude pics etc. My wife was fine with the odd one at first as she/we seen it as banter and after speaking to my sister who knows the guy better she said he can be like that sometimes.

The text messages kept coming and even when the wife ignores them, they continue to come through. Some related to the car, most not but not all are suggestive. Now when he came over today so the Mrs could give him the money we owed him, after giving the money he proceeds to give my wife a hug, which my wife thinks is fair enough as we tipped him slightly he could just be grateful for that. But as he releases the hug he leans in to kiss her and the wife puts her head down and he only manages to kiss her eye. This obviously made my wife more than a little uncomfortable and thankfully for her, Hannah, our daughter started kicking off in a tantrum less than 5 yards away. He then left and my wife phoned me to say.

My wife says she's not sure if he was trying to kiss her cheek or if he was going for the lot but she got the feeling it was the latter. While i was not there I am always going to believe my wife over someone we barely know (known him for 4/5 weeks or so). But my dilemma is, is this guy trying to get fired into my wife, or is he just overly friendly and inappropriate at times? I'm getting closer to breaking point either way......

Yes.

Block his number, take the car elsewhere in future.

edit: Assuming your wife wishes to reject his advances, of course

She has. I should've added the guy is over twice our age and is also married(to the best of our knowledge) with at least one grandchild(this we know for sure).

To me, the fact that your wife feels uncomfortable, is enough to say that he has overstepped the mark. Other than that, requesting nude pics of a married woman you hardly know is overstepping the mark.

How to deal with it? One major consideration is - are you bigger than him?

I don't know he's not sent any nudey pics to tell

All joking aside, he's a middle aged man with a grandchild etc i'm sure/hope I could take him.

He obviously has overstepped the mark.

The real question here is it worth ignoring this? as he may save you a right few quid, the cost of labour for cars is really expensive.

Do the very worst thing you can in today's society.

Leave a message on his answerphone about his granddaughter.

This is another thing that has plaguedd my mind over whether to tear this guy a new one. If I was to confront him over this etc and there was nothing in it then we could have shot ourselves in the foot money wise. He's saved us over £390 quid in the last months or so on car repairs etc and up until recently seemed a good guy.

Finish the latest round of repairs, pay him, then block his number and sever all contact. That is my advice. Seems to be the easiest way out (which is generally the best.)

did the wife show you the texts??

if so nut the jobby

What's his address, me and the boys will go round and have a ruck.

Yup. And every reply she sent back. There was nothing even remotely suggestive about anything she said in any text for him to think she wanted him to make any advances. I just took the messages as banter at first but only as they progressed I started to get a bit suspiscious of his intent.

Tell the guy that if it doesn't stop you're showing the texts to his missus

Has the car pased the MOT?Is the car worth more than your wife?
£390 is a lot of money is he well known in the local area for this behaviour.

he just seems a sad and at times typical middle aged twat to me. it's still worth knocking him the f**k out though

Obviously, from now on you deal with the guy and not your wife. Any business is conducted on your terms, ie. you go round and pay him at his house/garage/sex den. You finish what you started, sever all contact and leave it at that, safe in the knowledge that for your next service, all your wife needs to do is wear a low cut top and not wash her biff for a few days and when she asks you'll get it done free.

Set up a trap and tell your wife to play along.then you jump out and catch him red handed.Give him a beating.

Not sure yet it's going in on Thursday. It's her car and probably not going by the work that needed done I never knew he existed so I don't think he's a serial shagger or anything.

You are going to have to challenge him on this sooner or later.I would use the saddo as much as I could before doing it.Although lamp him within the next fortnight.

He's probably left wee jars of spunk hidden all around the car.

I would just make sure you do all future dealings with him - he's obviously picked up the wong message somehow if you make sure any future dealings are done through you and to be honest I would stop taking favours/mates rates and try to bring things back onto a more professional level

Personally I would be telling him to stick his cheap labour up his arse. Sure, you're saving cash on car repairs but, at the end of the day, the guy's leching on your missus. Is it worth putting her through that for the sake of a couple of hundred quid?

Not at all. Her safety/well being is paramount here and if she says she can't be near the guy again then that's the way it'll be. I'm certainly not going to keep going to this guy under these circumstances.

Look around for a handsome CHEAP mechanic and then tell him to eff off. Your wife won't be so insulted when a handsome, young virile man pays her some attention, and you get the car fixed cheap.

Win win....

if it was me i would run him over with the car, creating a sense of irony. then shag his wife, thus completing the circle.


being serious though, i would have been done for assault by now.

folk that are tarred as being too friendly, often know they are tarred that way, thats why they get away with it, folk like this annoy me

How big are your wifes tits?

yaaaas

Huge. The perks(excuse the pun) of her just becoming a mother. What's the relevance of this?

You should try coming onto the guy, once you start flirting away with him he'll be shit scared and either never come back, or keep doing your car for buttons because he's scared you'll try and bum him.

There is a credit crunch..... needs must.....

He's at it, break his fucking face.

I'd weigh things up from a purely logical way. Can you afford to take the car somewhere else if your wife spurns his advances? What about giving your car services for free if she actively encourages them? Also, is his wife or daughter hot?

Beat him at his own game.

Send him texts from your wifes phone pretending to be her, asking him if he has feelings for you etc.

If he's up for it, arange to meet him, go round pick him up in the car and when he comes out, give him the kicking of his life.

Text him.

"hiya wanna go to the woods for sexy time?"

then meet him up there with your mates

Barter with him.
50 % cheaper car repairs for a few naked pictures of your wife sound reasonable. Everyones a winner!

Can i have her number then? Nah mate, if hes smaller than you a wee threatening speach would get the job done but the sensible thing to do would be let him finish the job and then sever all ties with him, albeit not the most exciting one but you want to avoid conflict realy. Let us know how you get on

Big boobs are great eh.

Smelly fandango and a bit of flesh = free repairs for life.

Rook the c**t for all he's worth, he'll be dead soon.

gypsy till we die, are you familiar with a film called indecent proposal... there is money to be made here if your missus is up for it.

I am indeed but i very much doubt there's any money in it as he is a fellow inhabitant of Scumbernauld.

I second that! Quality idea!

Simmilar to an idea above...

Swap phones with the Missus and next time he gets suggestive send him a video of you 'appreciating yourself'.

Shoot him.

I think a round of high stakes poker.

sounds like the wife is leading him on behaind your back and your being taking for a ride.... Are you sexually satisfying her?

If you're going to try provoke a reaction from me at least get your spelling correct first. The word you're looking for here is "you're" as in you are. Class dismissed. Oh and i'm satisfying her more than anyone could

hey I was only trying too help

Got to agree with those guys, get the old balaclava out and drag the cvnt up an alley and trucheon the p***k.

Just deck the bastart!