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Cheers mate.

Thankfully he was denied entry to the US and his mum and dad are now with him. They are flying back tonight so it's all about getting him the help he needs. He's in a real dark place according to his wife when I spoke to her an hour ago.

Might not seem it to him at the moment but getting denied access could be a blessing in disguise! Can't begin to imagine the place he's in when he decides that plan of action, and probably now feels worse it didn't come off and everyone now knows and had to get him. Hopefully he gets the help he needs and is in a better place soon.

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35 minutes ago, Adolfo Rios said:

 


Cheers mate.

Thankfully he was denied entry to the US and his mum and dad are now with him. They are flying back tonight so it's all about getting him the help he needs. He's in a real dark place according to his wife when I spoke to her an hour ago.

 

Acute help can be patchy but hopefully he can get access to care he needs even if that means being sectioned. 

Keep yourself well too though.

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Might not seem it to him at the moment but getting denied access could be a blessing in disguise! Can't begin to imagine the place he's in when he decides that plan of action, and probably now feels worse it didn't come off and everyone now knows and had to get him. Hopefully he gets the help he needs and is in a better place soon.


Oh it absolutely will be a blessing in my opinion. I myself have went through cognitive behaviour therapy and it really has helped.

We are all just relieved it's not escalated even further.

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Oh it absolutely will be a blessing in my opinion. I myself have went through cognitive behaviour therapy and it really has helped.

We are all just relieved it's not escalated even further.

Very true. If he did get in the US I'd imagine it could become very difficult to find him.
Glad the therapy helped you, hopefully your mate finds it good as well.
As Rowan says, make sure you're keeping your recovery as well mate.

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5 minutes ago, Poet of the Macabre said:

Has anyone tried 'Beating the Blues' before? Got encouraged to try it out by the doc but I've found it to be amazingly patronising and time-consuming tbh.

Never heard of it. What is it?

Hold up; is it the one that costs £50?! f**k that.

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17 minutes ago, Poet of the Macabre said:

Has anyone tried 'Beating the Blues' before? Got encouraged to try it out by the doc but I've found it to be amazingly patronising and time-consuming tbh.

Sounds like a poorly-chosen name tbh. I get that it's supposed to be catchy and they're just trying to use alliteration to sound positive, but the use of the word "blues" when trying to help people with depression is verging on tasteless IMO. 

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12 minutes ago, smpar said:

Sounds like a poorly-chosen name tbh. I get that it's supposed to be catchy and they're just trying to use alliteration to sound positive, but the use of the word "blues" when trying to help people with depression is verging on tasteless IMO. 

You should see the graphics...

Some of it was so bad that I laughed; maybe this was the desired effect?

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20 minutes ago, Poet of the Macabre said:

You should see the graphics...

Some of it was so bad that I laughed; maybe this was the desired effect?

I just had a look at their website. Leaving aside the horrid number of awful stock photos they've used, it looks like a fairly bog standard CBT course they're trying to flog. Speak to your GP instead and he'll refer you to one for free.

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13 minutes ago, The Moonster said:

I just had a look at their website. Leaving aside the horrid number of awful stock photos they've used, it looks like a fairly bog standard CBT course they're trying to flog. Speak to your GP instead and he'll refer you to one for free.

I've not had to pay for it (thankfully) but spending half an hour writing down how I feel about doing the dishes isn't really helping.

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1 minute ago, Poet of the Macabre said:

I've not had to pay for it (thankfully) but spending half an hour writing down how I feel about doing the dishes isn't really helping.

Yeah, I'm not sure an online course type thing is very personal. I found actually speaking to someone in the flesh really helpful and they could alter their line of questioning/advice based on your circumstances.

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About time I posted here.

Signed off work with stress and exhaustion. Think there's more to it than that but my main focus when I went to the doctor was just to get the time off work. I'm very stubborn and just ride out bad feelings but I snapped and knew I needed time off.

My problem is I really can't bare the thought of going back. How will I know when I'm ready?

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1 hour ago, Jamaldo said:

About time I posted here.

Signed off work with stress and exhaustion. Think there's more to it than that but my main focus when I went to the doctor was just to get the time off work. I'm very stubborn and just ride out bad feelings but I snapped and knew I needed time off.

My problem is I really can't bare the thought of going back. How will I know when I'm ready?

I think that's something you would talk about with your doctor, mate. 

Sounds like you've done the right thing, btw. 

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I think that's something you would talk about with your doctor, mate. 
Sounds like you've done the right thing, btw. 


Cheers. Might make an appointment before I go back or get an extension.

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Cheers. Might make an appointment before I go back or get an extension.

Go back to your doctor and tell him you don't feel ready mate. When you feel ready to return to work, you will be.
Someone I know (genuinely not me, I've never been brave enough to address issues with he doctor) returned to work to soon. They were in bits before even getting there.
Speak to your work as well. If possible try going in just for an hour or so to get used to being back but knowing you'll be away again and won't have to worry soon.

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2 hours ago, Jamaldo said:

About time I posted here.

Signed off work with stress and exhaustion. Think there's more to it than that but my main focus when I went to the doctor was just to get the time off work. I'm very stubborn and just ride out bad feelings but I snapped and knew I needed time off.

My problem is I really can't bare the thought of going back. How will I know when I'm ready?

I don't know your age and circumstances but maybe taking a look at how much your work has contributed would be useful and seeing if you could change jobs or hours might help.

A few years ago I was working lots of hours with plenty of travel and got to the stage where I just couldn't face it and couldn't sustain work and family life.  I took time off (agreed by my then employers), cut a lot of costs and started a new job which is part time but pays enough to sustain me and support my weans.

OK so I am much poorer but no longer have a sense of dread when the alarm goes off in the morning.  It could be that all you need is a break but maybe you need to look at things and make some adjustments if it's at all feasible.

Best wishes, bud and I know plenty on here have been in similar circumstances.

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I don't know your age and circumstances but maybe taking a look at how much your work has contributed would be useful and seeing if you could change jobs or hours might help.
A few years ago I was working lots of hours with plenty of travel and got to the stage where I just couldn't face it and couldn't sustain work and family life.  I took time off (agreed by my then employers), cut a lot of costs and started a new job which is part time but pays enough to sustain me and support my weans.
OK so I am much poorer but no longer have a sense of dread when the alarm goes off in the morning.  It could be that all you need is a break but maybe you need to look at things and make some adjustments if it's at all feasible.
Best wishes, bud and I know plenty on here have been in similar circumstances.


The worst thing about work has been the bad thoughts circulating through my head about colleagues and customers. I can't seem to stop them. It doesn't matter if they're a good person or a bad person really. It just happens. That's what I needed a break from.

Want to speak to a counsellor but have my doubts about it. I've built up an image of what they would have to look like (friendly face etc) and if they don't match that I might be less inclined to reveal stuff. But that's something that I can't really control I suppose.

Has anyone seen a private counsellor? Is that worth paying for? Will I get an appointment more quickly?

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6 minutes ago, Jamaldo said:

 


The worst thing about work has been the bad thoughts circulating through my head about colleagues and customers. I can't seem to stop them. It doesn't matter if they're a good person or a bad person really. It just happens. That's what I needed a break from.

Want to speak to a counsellor but have my doubts about it. I've built up an image of what they would have to look like (friendly face etc) and if they don't match that I might be less inclined to reveal stuff. But that's something that I can't really control I suppose.

Has anyone seen a private counsellor? Is that worth paying for? Will I get an appointment more quickly?

 

I assume you're in some sort of sales/customer services type role and that can be quite tough.

You'll certainly get a private counsellor quickly if you pay for it.  Maybe look for someone with career experience, too?

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Jamaldo, you may find that you have to try several councillors before you get one you can work with. I've been through many many mental health professionals over the years but eventually found one but it's private sector and it cheap.

 

Also made sure that anyone you do go and see has the appropriate accreditations. 

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4 hours ago, The Moonster said:

I just had a look at their website. Leaving aside the horrid number of awful stock photos they've used, it looks like a fairly bog standard CBT course they're trying to flog. Speak to your GP instead and he'll refer you to one for free.

Where do you live Moonster? While i dunno if they do CBT, in Glasgow there is a excellent organisation called Lifelink who offer a variety of free courses that ive found helpful.

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