[Captain Emerald]

Can someone please tell me what the secret to a long term relationship is?

Perhaps what is required is different for everyone. It seems that all my so called "relationships" if you can even call it that last no longer than a week or two. It isn't because I get dumped either. Rather, it seems as if I get bored. I always seem to think the grass is greener elsewhere, as if there is someone better out there all the time. I just cant let myself stay still and be happy for a while. People tell me it's my age (ill be 19 in a couple of weeks) but it's still something i'm pretty worried about.

Other people tell me I have commitment issues... maybe.

I'm never totally satisfied with the one person, I always think the next person will be better but it seldom turns out like that.

All i'm asking is that someone gives me some serious advice on how to get into the sort of... mindset... of a long term relationship. Ive never managed to get into that mindset and I would really like to know how. Thanks.

[Gordon EF]

Captain Emerald, on Feb 6 2008, 02:51, said:

People tell me it's my age (ill be 19 in a couple of weeks)

They're right.

[RCR]

You need to meet someone thats not boring, and doesn't give you everything on a plate. Keep things interesting, be cheeky, dont always give them what they want either. Sounds daft, but it seems to work.

[Reynard]

Captain Emerald, on Feb 6 2008, 02:51, said:

Can someone please tell me what the secret to a long term relationship is?

Perhaps what is required is different for everyone. It seems that all my so called "relationships" if you can even call it that last no longer than a week or two. It isn't because I get dumped either. Rather, it seems as if I get bored. I always seem to think the grass is greener elsewhere, as if there is someone better out there all the time. I just cant let myself stay still and be happy for a while. People tell me it's my age (ill be 19 in a couple of weeks) but it's still something i'm pretty worried about.

Other people tell me I have commitment issues... maybe.

I'm never totally satisfied with the one person, I always think the next person will be better but it seldom turns out like that.

All i'm asking is that someone gives me some serious advice on how to get into the sort of... mindset... of a long term relationship. Ive never managed to get into that mindset and I would really like to know how. Thanks.

You are far too young to be giving a shit. Just enjoy yourself

[SaintSam]

Reynard, on Feb 6 2008, 07:02, said:

You are far too young to be giving a shit. Just enjoy yourself

That's the best advice you will get on this thread.

[qos_75]

Indeed. Get as much as you can until you are at least 28 -30. Then you will be ready to settle down.

[Mrs M]

If you're getting bored and can't be bothered, it's because it's not right for you. And yes, you are nowhere near old enough that you actually have to worry about that sort of thing.

[P.C]

agreed at 19 your far too young to worry about that, saying that when i was 19 i started going out with a girl and it lasted 4 1/2 years but seriously enjoy yourself just now you have plenty of time

[KiwiDB]

Reynard, on Feb 6 2008, 07:02, said:

You are far too young to be giving a shit. Just enjoy yourself

I fully agree, I'm 27 and have decided the same.

[Michael W]

I've been with my Girlfriend 3 months. If you start to get bored, or find that your arguing too much, then I think thats when it's time to move on. Either that or when she gets pregnant

[P.C]

MW RRFC, on Feb 6 2008, 11:49, said:

I've been with my Girlfriend 3 months. If you start to get bored, or find that your arguing too much, then I think thats when it's time to move on. Either that or when she gets pregnant

hang in there if she does, you'll get a flat out of that

[Shengus Khan]

I started going out with my girlfriend when I was 17 and as I approach the quarter of a century mark she's still stuck with me the poor dame.

Sometimes I think it would be great to be a single lad who could go out on the piss with the lads without a care in the world and dunk any slag who looks twice at me but then i've got mates who are single who wish they were in a long term relationship.

It's horses for courses really.

[Monster]

Next month is the 5th anniversary of the wedding of me and that bitchy poster that doesn't know when to leave the keyboard.

Never regretted it for a second, she's a hell of a lot nicer than she appears to be on here.

[Swampy]

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People tell me it's my age (ill be 19 in a couple of weeks)

Yep.

[Reina]

I actually disagree with this 'it's your age' shite.I met my husband when I was about to turn 17 and we've been together ever since. If you meet the right person, it doesn't matter what age you are.

[Mrs M]

Reina, on Feb 6 2008, 12:37, said:

I actually disagree with this 'it's your age' shite.I met my husband when I was about to turn 17 and we've been together ever since. If you meet the right person, it doesn't matter what age you are.

That's also true. I was meaning, though, that at the age of 18, if you haven't found someone yet, it's a bit young to worry about it too much. If you find the right person, great, if not, there's plenty of time for that yet.

[P.C]

Mrs Wee, on Feb 6 2008, 12:42, said:

That's also true. I was meaning, though, that at the age of 18, if you haven't found someone yet, it's a bit young to worry about it too much. If you find the right person, great, if not, there's plenty of time for that yet.

so at what age should you start worrying?

[HGG]

Mrs Wee, on Feb 6 2008, 12:42, said:

That's also true. I was meaning, though, that at the age of 18, if you haven't found someone yet, it's a bit young to worry about it too much. If you find the right person, great, if not, there's plenty of time for that yet.

I'm not even sure he's worried about knowing immediately it's the "right one", more even getting off the starting blocks.

As has already been said here, regardless of age, if she doesn't interest you after a week then there's little point continuing. Maybe you could look at something else other than why you're getting fed up with the girls you're seeing. Like where you meet them and whether there are other places you could go where there would be more women likely to share your interests?

[qos_75]

P.C, on Feb 6 2008, 12:45, said:

so at what age should you start worrying?

Whe your not getting your Nat King Cole on a regular basis...

[Mrs M]

P.C, on Feb 6 2008, 12:45, said:

so at what age should you start worrying?

About your age.

HGG, on Feb 6 2008, 12:49, said:

I'm not even sure he's worried about knowing immediately it's the "right one", more even getting off the starting blocks.

As has already been said here, regardless of age, if she doesn't interest you after a week then there's little point continuing. Maybe you could look at something else other than why you're getting fed up with the girls you're seeing. Like where you meet them and whether there are other places you could go where there would be more women likely to share your interests?

I firmly believe that if it's right, it wouldn't take any particular act to get things going well. If he's having to put effort into making it work and looking for a way to keep it going, it just ain't going to happen.

[P.C]

qos_75, on Feb 6 2008, 12:49, said:

Whe your not getting your Nat King Cole on a regular basis...

[Whistle Blower]

You will find the right woman, just about the same time you come home from living down south, your single, have a fair wedge of disposable income in your pocket and have bought a great 3 bedroom batchelor pad for quality room by room pumping with random ladies of a weekend.

[fraser_smfc]

This thread is actually quite reassuring. I kept thinking the same as the topic starter but I am too young to even begin to start to worry. Happy days